Post # 1
We are not doing a unity candle or candles of any sort since the church we are getting married in is from the 1800’s i don’t want to chance anything! However, I want to involve our mothers, where they do something during the ceremony! We are going to do some kind of unity, not sure what maybe handfasting! Any suggestions on what the mothers can do!
Post # 3
Well first, I think it is highly unlikely that lighting unity candles would result in burning the church down…haha, but you could do a sand ceremony or something like that with the mothers filling up each of your vases before you join the sands.
Are you doing any readings?
Post # 4
Sand ceremonies seem to be pretty popular, maybe your moms could bring up the sand? Both of our parents walked both of us down the aisle, which was really nice. At my sister’s wedding, there was a place where the officiant asked the parents of both the bride and groom to consent to support the couple in their marriage, which was also really nice.
Post # 5
You could do a water or sand ceremony in lieu of the unity candle, which would both involve your moms. We are asking our moms to do readings of love poems or prose about love.
Post # 6
I doubt I would burn the church down but with my luck something would happen! I am the first to get married there or have anything there in probably 60 years so i am being cautious! I would like a reading or something but his mom cries alot and mine has health issues so i don’t want to do that! I have always thoght we would do the sand ceremony cause we live at the beach but we are getting married on a farm! So i am all confussed! I have everything all planned out but that and the flowers! It is so funny to me all the ladies that have issues with the dress, i think that was the easiest thing that I did! 🙂 Thanks for all the ideas! 🙂 Yall are wonderful!
Post # 7
My FI and I also wanted to incorporate our mothers into the ceremony, so our Justice of the PEace is adding in a part to the ceremony where my FI and I will present flowers to our mothers.
Post # 8
Could you have both of them do a reading? That could be a nice and simple way to involve them.
Post # 9
We had both our parents walk us down the aisle. Also, during the ring exchange part of the ceremony, our moms came up and assisted the priest instead of an MOH and BM. My MIL stood on my husband’s side and held the rings; my mom stood on my side and held my bouquet. 🙂 It was really special to us. And, our moms signed as witnesses on the marriage license.
Post # 10
We didn’t do a unity candle or sand ceremony either but instead had our officiant read a section we wrote that talked about how instrumental our moms were in getting us to this point in our lives and how much we appreciated them. Then we presented each of them with a small bouquet of their favorite flowers. Mini callas for the groom’s mom and Lilies of the Valley for mine. It was a great moment and the flowers were gorgeous, especially since they weren’t part of the overall decor so they really stood out.
Post # 11
If you are Catholic you could have the mothers combine two flower halos together and place them on the Virgin Mary, simiilar to May Crowning. If not, I love the idea of having both parents walking down the aisle with you!
Post # 12
This website has some ideas of different ceremonies you could include:
Since you’re getting married in church you could do a lasso ceremony
My friend had a crystal rosary lasso it was really beautiful, but apparently u can have floral, rope, cord, all kinds. I think it’s Either a double rosary or just a big circle that they place in figure 8 shape around the bride and grooms neck. Your Moms can place it on you guys, as a way of including them.
Post # 13
We are also doing a flower presentation to our moms.
Post # 14
Mrs. Spring, I loved your idea of having the moms assist in the ring ceremony.
We are having a secular wedding and I think we will both be walked down the aisle by both of our parents.
An idea for you, smith – your moms could bring flowers or say something about those important people who have passed away? Not to be morbid…but if she’s going to be crying anyway…