- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014 - Church and Mansion on lake
So, I can’t sleep tonight because I’m feeling frustrated.
My fiance and I are I guess you would say low income. He’s just out of college, with his debt (he has a job). I’m still in college and will be for a long time. The only reason we don’t live together (or even have sex for that matter) is because we’re christians and we value our faith.
I’m frustrated because my family has not really been involved in my life at all. I recently got a degree, and most of my family didn’t show up to the graduation. He is an only child and his parents are very close to him, but what I don’t understand is, if my family isn’t helping with wedding finances, why aren’t his either?
And okay, so they can’t help with wedding finances, well why not hook me up with connections? Network me to people they know? Give me a craft, an item to use, something!
In a way, I feel like, I want a nice wedding. It would be so nice to have a nice wedding, but I feel like when I see that other people aren’t involved, and literally, I’m planning this all alone and it’s all out of my pocket (he’s saving for the honeymoon), I feel like it’s not worth it. Like they’re treating me like I’m not worth having a nice wedding.
His mother expects me to have a wedding just like hers 40 YEARS AGO! Punch, cake, no honeymoon, but it’s like geez! That was so long ago and that’s NOT what I want.
Even if I share my ideas with her, like a dress that I got at an auction for $30, mind you, it’s beautiful, she wants me to get something different.
I thought about taking foodjars/mason jars to decorate for decorations at the reception with flowers. She states, “well, I can still see the expiration date and it’s obviously a food jar.”
I say I don’t want a wedding cake, but she wants me to get a cake done by someone she knows.
I say I want the reception to be at a local mansion (that’s cheap for residents), but she wants me to do it in a church reception hall, that literally, is just so small!
What the heck! i just feel like throwing all of this away, but is it worth it to elope or would I regret it in the end?
A note to add is both he and I are both entirely paying for our school debts, wedding, honeymoon, whatever home we move into, etc.
Are there really any more options?