(Closed) I want to punch my husband in the face!!!!!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Ronneykay:  My husband does this too sometimes….it’s his way of empathizing I think. The way I handle it is by saying “DH thanks for sharing and I am sorry you had a rough week but what I really need right now is a hug and some reassurance that I am loved.” They are not the best all the time of understanding that all you need is a nod and smile and hug.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think you might need a nerf gun for such occasions!!  πŸ˜‰

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Uuugghhhh, FI does the same thing.  If I’m having a rough day, either from work or wedding planning, house buying, etc. and I vent to him, he’ll just blow it off and complain about how stressed he is.  I totally get he’s stressed (He has a full time and part time job), but sometimes I just want to complain and be hugged!

*Shakes head* Boys…

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

 My husband does the same thing. I can say something and sometimes there’s no responce. One day I showed him a cute outfit I bought for our grandaughter and silence. I couldn’t believe I’m showing him something and he has absolutely nothing to say, I’m a little peeved. I sit in silence…. you don’t wanna talk to me…. I won’t talk to you. Later that night I tell him “It really irks me when I say something to you and you don’t say a word, like today when I showed you Savannah’s outfit”. He replies “Yes I did, I told you it was cute” WTF? He SWORE he responded to me. I said “Yeah, in your mind”… it then dawns on me. Maybe that’s what he does, he thinks he’s answered me but just thinks it. I think from now on I’m just going to have to ask him “Are you expecting me to read your mind or do you want to speak”?

I don’t know if your husband could be doing this or maybe he doesn’t know how to respond. As women we just like to vent, we don’t expect anyone to fix it…just listen. Maybe you could tell him that, you just want him to honestly listen and a hug couldn’t hurt either.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@WillyNilly Nerf guns for all! πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I just want to say that I feel for you!

I work in the executive corporate office industry and am an account manager but also do some reception.. It is stressful having to put up with so many different high level managers acting like they are more important than everyone else!

DH is an investment banker so when I say I’m stressed he looks at me like “Really?”.. Cue rage! Haha

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think I have the same problem as you….except I’m your fiancee in this scenario! I often seem to “hi-jack” my fiancee’s work issues with my own, without meaning to. It’s only when he brings it to my attention that I realise I took his “me” time away. It’s not that I want to be selfish…but I want to vent about my own problems, too! 

Anyway….I’m working on this. But if your fiancee is anything like me, he doesn’t mean to be doing what he’s doing πŸ˜‰

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m late but mine just pulled that on me too! After a particularly frustrating day, i was telling him about it and he interrupted me and said, “I need a complaining break.” ARRRGGG!!!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think you need to have a talk with him and ask him why he turns conversations about YOU into conversations about HIM.  He probably doesn’t realize that he’s doing it.  As others have said, it may just be his way of empathizing with you.  Maybe you can tell him something along the lines of, “I’m sorry you’re also stressed out but I really need your love and support right now, so can we please focus on my problem right now and talk about yours a little later on in a different conversation?”  You probably need to word that a little better to make it sound nicer, but hopefully you get the general gist of what I’m saying here–when you’re talking your problems, the focus should be on YOU–not shifting to him and his problems–and vice-versa.  YOUR problems don’t necessary always need to come first, either, because whoever brings their problems up first or has the more pressing problem should be comforted first while the other person should wait their turn for a later conversation if they also have problems they’d like to talk about.  In this case, he didn’t want to talk about his problems until you started talking about yours so he could obviously afford to wait.  Learn to take turns in conversations. πŸ™‚

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