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I think the norm is right around 8 weeks. I am going to send ours at 12 weeks; the first week of January. We have already heard from some of the potential guests that they were happy to have the save-the-dates early; sent back in May, because they can plan. With the economy the way it is, a lot of people need all the planning time they can get, especially if they are coming from far away.
I am sending my STDs out the first week of August (wedding date May 7). I will probably send my invitations out the first week of March. I might send them out just a little bit earlier because it took me 3 weeks to get the addresses for many of my guests (2 emails and a phone call). I can just imagine how long it will take them to respond to an RSVP.
yea, we did send STDs back in January.
Our wedding is not destination but it is about 2 hours away from most guests and we do have some out of towners... So i am thinking that given my vacation, sending them out 9.5 weeks vs. just under 8 might not be THAT bad.
Now that I have them all set up and looking pretty in a giant box, they are staring at me and it is KILLING me to not send them out. haha.
@BeachFanatic: I think 8 weeks is sufficent unless you have a lot of OOT guests or your wedding was around a holiday. Usually anywhere between 6-8 weeks is standard so you're on the far end of that.
The thing to worry about with sending them out too early is that people may think they'll RSVP as it gets closer to the day and then forget to actually send the card back, or people may RSVP Yes and then have plans change (I'm talking about aquaintances here mostly).
I'm right there with you-- at least you are closer to when you "should" send them out than me. . . i don't think i'll make it.
I sent my sister's invites out at the end of May for a September 18th wedding. There were extenuating circumstances though. Her FI's family is from Belize so they needed the invite in order to attach to visa applications and all that jazz. Also, b/c they are getting married in Norfolk and the hotel they blocked is right on the beach, we wanted to give everybody time to book rooms since the hotel specified all reservations needed to be made by July 18th ( a full 2 months before the wedding).
Ordinarily it would be about 6 to 8 weeks out though.
I'd send 'em out now. And ask that he wait to open any that you get back. That was fun for us, to check the mail box and see who had replied. 8 weeks is pretty standard. But I've also heard that you can send them out between 2 and 3 months. So if its killing ya, just send them! I did the same thing :)
I'm sending mine out about 10 weeks ahead...I'll send them out Dec 26th for our March 19 wedding. That way they won't get lost in the Christmas card rush, but our mostly OOT guests will have time to finalize their plans.
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So we are just finishing stuffing them this week.
My wedding is October 2. My RSVP date is September 2.
I am away all next week. Sooo we were gonna take them to the post office Monday, Aug 2 when I get home. Now I am dying!! I want to send them out NOOOOW! FI said he can send them next week when I am gone but I told him I didn't want my babies to go off to the post office without me. He said we can send them this Friday before I leave but I dont want RSVPs coming back without me! lol. He said he would wait to open them...
So, I know this has been thrown around... what is the normal time to send them out. August 2 would be 8 weeks.. if I sent them out the end of this week it would be a little over 9 weeks.