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Well you can do as I did and show him a few of your faves and get his reaction.
I got the thumbs up on quite a few and seriously, he'll be an easy guy to please (thank my lucky stars!)
Maybe try that with M? You do rock that AA dress btw. But confuse him and show him other dresses too. (that way he would not have a clue as to which you'll wear!)
Btw, I'm bad with presents. Each time I get a surprise for somebody I end up telling them what it is b/c I get so excited for them. I'm going to try to NOT do this with the wedding dress or his groom's gift.
Well, do you want to show him the dress, or show him pictures of you IN the dress?
Maybe if you want his input, you could just ask him how he thinks you look best... you know, what's a favorite dress of yours that you have, and why he likes it... how he likes your hair etc... I think it would be nice to make the dress decision largely independent of him.
My FH has seen my dresses... mostly because he sits by me on the couch while I do wedding things. And the way I've been working on all these sketches, he's bound to notice. When the dress actually gets here, I won't let him see it... but that's mostly just for fun.
I don't think anything (short of wearing the dress around the house in front of him) will take away from him seeing you on your wedding day... it will still be amazing!
i have shown him the silhouette etc the problem with the AA dress is it looks NOTHING like it looks on me when the model is wearing it, it's very shapeless almost. and i'm awful at presents I feel like i'm going to explode and most of the time i tell. i mean i can usually surprise him but this is sooo big and major and i mean he doesn't know the veil or the accessories but i feel that it may be taken something away if he sees it? maybe i should show him that dress and all the others and ask him which is his favorite?
I agree. Show him a few of your favorites and see what he thinks. That way, it will still be a surprise on the big day since he won't know which one you've chosen. The only thing is if you show him one that you're only "meh" about and he loves it, are you okay with that? Regardless, I'm positive that on the big day he's going to look at you and think about how gorgeous you are. I don't think critiquing your dress will be on the agenda :-)
well i can tell you that i have the same problem... he is my best friend and i like his input and opinions. at first i decided to go with my friend advice of not showing the dress to him. i went to db and tried white dress and love one... after much thinking i decided not to buy it until he see it and thank God i decided that. when he saw it he didn't like it, he told me he want me in a red dress... i know that for some brides it sounds weird to have the fi opinions but i have really good reasons:
1) im getting dress fro him so i need to be sure he likes it because i want to make him happy.
2) the dress is a big chunk of money so i do need his input
believe me he may remember some things about the dress but in your wedding day it will be different, you will have your make up, your hair done and everything...
but again this is my opinion and im not your traditional bride
Okay i showed him a quick list from my blog and he said well i dunno (that doesn't help because i didn't want him to read what was written therefore he couldn't tell which was my favorite)
okay i just showed it to him and he said he likes it. :D whew... it was a quick 2 second look and then i asked him what the dress looked like and he said it was white now i'm going to confuse him and show him others :D... eta i showed him all of the dresses one by one and he said some were all right and that he liked others... he said "i like that one" for this one..
and i like that one on this one...
Ha ha ha ah ha! I totally showed Mr. KM the day I tried my dress on! My mom was like "NOOOOOOO DON'T LOOK AT IT" cause she was sitting in a chair and we were on the sofa and I had my laptop. But he liked it. He doesn't really care about it as long as I'm in it!
That is perfect! M loves it! I am also laughing at how quickly all this transpired. Cre, you are good gal. You can get it done!
Now check "fiance loves my dress" off your list!
@KM: my partner in crime lmao!! you don't understand i feel like a billion times better after showing him you know?! lmao!!!
@bellenga: lmao yeah and i still have to show him the one that confused the heck out of me (the fluffy one that i still adore just not for that day :D)
That's so funny, my FI was caught in the middle when I was keeping my dress here instead of home! Every time he got up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom, I watched to make sure he wasn't going into my closet, lol.
And then, when I was like, ooh dresses, he shied away sooo fast!!
Anyways Cre... I say confuse him like crazy. Show him ones you'd never wear!! haha
I totally know! That's why I showed Mr. KM. I was like "okay, what do you think?" and in typical fashion he said "It's pretty, but I'm glad you're going to be wearing it"... like the model came with the dress or something. That boy!
@EVERYONE: i showed him this one (remember it confused the doodie out of me because to me it says bride)... well he said it looks like a tablecloth even though i still love it so i throw the what if i were buying it. he said it still looks like a table cloth...
I am having the same problem! Me and the FI shop for everything together and I feel like ahhh because this is one purchase I cant include him in. I think the pay off will be amazing when he sees you in your dress on your big day! I keep that thought in the back of head all the time.
@futuremrs: i showed it to him along with about 11 others to see his response :D he said he likes it (whew!!) but i didn't show him all of the pictures that I have shown y'all. I still think I need to try on that one shoulder again because it looks better on me than I remember in the store even though I think Sophia is my dress (I am being crazy about this but this is the dress that will live on for my great grandkids in pictures you know?)
@crebre80 I love the one shoulder on you in compliments you in all the right places! I totally get you I fell in love with one dress but went with a totally different dress because in photos it just didnt look that great 
@futuremrs: i think the one shoulder is a bit plain for me, although i really liked it a lot (until i put sophia back on, sophia is the dress i am wearing with the veil on)... i love how the fabric shines in it as well...
I was the same way with the first dress I bought. I totally wanted to show it to him and get his opinion because even though I didn't want him to see The Dress, I wanted to make sure he was going to like it. I ended up showing him the model pictures and he liked the dress, but then I switched dresses. He got all antsy about how he wants to see it, needs to see it, doesn't it like when things are surprises etc, and I finally told him that while I felt that way about the first dress, I have no doubts whatsoever that he will love the dress I have now, he will think I am beautiful in it, that it will be perfect for us, and that is enough for me. Total change in his attitude as soon as I said that, so I guess he had just been picking up on my angst about the first dress which was just the wrong dress for me.
I think you did the right thing in getting a reaction from him, and btw I also love your smile, Crebre. It is so genuine and you look like you are having so much fun.
Of course he liked it, you look gorgeous in that dress!
I want my fiancee to look at my pics because I have so much dress anxiety and not sure if I picked the right one, but he refuses to. He knew I was nervous and thinking about getting a second dress for a while, so he agreed to look at it on the model and says he liked it. But he's said that about 90% of wedding dresses he's seen :) He says he wants to be surprised when he first sees me...I hope to God it's not an unpleasant surprise!
LOL to the table cloth comment!
I feel the same as you. I've showed R so many dress pictures. It's so weird how separate a lot of wedding-related things are "supposed" to be. Personally, I hate a lot of the traditions. Like spending the night before the wedding apart, etc. I guess in more traditional times it made sense, but in our modern society they're kind of ridic.
Wow..you have an amazing waistline gal in that "tablecloth". You look great in it imho. Check out the curves!!
Warning: Curves ahead!!
Please stick with your first dress. It looks amazing on you. And you look amazing in it.
And M is kind of right; that other one does look a bit like a table cloth. :P
After my crazy dress shopping expedition, I called J and told him that I kept having to remind myself that he wouldn't be able to help me decide. It's so weird because anything else (everything else) wedding related (and a lot not wedding related) , he is my partner in crime, and we decide everything together. So it's weird that he can't help choose my dress. I think part of me was hoping he would be like, "to heck with that tradition! show me the dresses!" but he wasn't, haha.
thats great that he loves it... im so happy for u
I'm in the same boat! I can't keep a secret from FI to save my life. We both gave our Christmas presents at Thanksgiving when we bought them because we couldn't contain ourselves. When I went dress shopping I wasn't even allowed to take pictures on my camera because everyone knew I would show him. My FSIL and my mom took pictures so they have some and I secretly look at the beauty online and I even ask FI about once a week if I can show him. He always says no, he wants to be surprised. At least he has will power on this issue because I sure don't!
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Okay y'all know the meltdowns I have been having, but I really want to show M the dress so he can say yay or nay, or give his input. He's my best friend and he ALWAYS helps me with dress decisions if I am uncomfortable or don't quite know the direction to go. should I show him the dress? I wonder if he'll remember?! He says he doesn't know if he'll remember or not but I really don't know.. S.O.B (son of a b.. and sob)