Post # 1
A flurry of BFP posts have gotten me a bit bitter and frustrated.
I hate how long each month is! I want to skip the first 12-14 days of my cycle, get straight to the FW, get lots and lots of sexy time in, skip the two week wait, find out BFP or BFN and then move on to trying again. These weeks waiting for O are almost worse than the TWW!!!
I’m also struggling a bit since my brain kind of got “used to” being pregnant – even though I only was KU for about 2 weeks. I just want to get back there!!
i know its my own pressure now too – the wedding is over now and we want a baby more than anything. I’m 38 and DH is 37 so I’m well aware of time ticking away. I’m a high school teacher and there are like a million pregnant teachers (seriously, we have 11 teachers KU). I saw how happy DH was when I got that BFP in late July and I want to give that to him again.
Ugh!!!! How do you all handle it??? The waiting? The wanting it so badly and not being able to control it????
Post # 3
I’m with you! I don’t O until CD30-ish, so the wait is excruciating! This cycle has been even more frustrating because DH has had a terrible few weeks at work and we just missed the FW. Ugh! Now I have to wait two weeks for AF and then THIRTY more days before we even have a chance!
I had a chemical last month, so I sorta know how you feel on that end too. We had a week of excitement and were so disappointed when it turned out not to be a sticky baby. It really stinks to have no control over this! I don’t really have any advice, I just wanted you to know you’re not alone! Haha!
Post # 4
@Glasgowbound: this is frustrating. It makes me sad tho that you’re wishing your life away. I don’t have any advice…
Post # 5
@Glasgowbound: Oh man I have been saying this over and over again to my DH. Granted this is our first cycle TTC but I am an impatienet gal. I am 12 DPO and so far all BFN….I am hoping it is just too early.
I hate to “wish my life away” as the PP mentioned but the waiting is brutal. I mean if it doesn’t work out this month I have to do it all over again. The planning, the testing, BDing (well I’m okay with that part), then more waiting, more testing. Good lord! It is an overwhelming thing to think this could take months/years. I applaud all the women that have been trying for a while, they are truely resilient.
Post # 6
Some women have more luck when they stop stressing about it and just start living again. Putting all this pressure on yourself certainly isn’t making things easier! I know that’s easier said than done, but maybe you need to just take a hiatus from “trying” and refocus on loving yourself and your husband.
Post # 7
@Glasgowbound: I feel the same way. I usually O very late if at all so even after I get crosshairs I have to wonder each day not only if I am preggers or not but if my O was real. I haven’t been on WB in awhile and it is very frustrating to see the giant surplus of BFP’s that are going around right now.
Post # 8
@Glasgowbound: I know how you feel! We might miss the next TWO fertile windows because I’ll be traveling- can I bring some of my husband’s sperm and a turkey baster with me!?!??! The thought of having to wait so long if we don’t get preggo this month sucks! Couldn’t we just ovulate, like, once a week ;)? I’m sorry that you miscarried and hope you get another sticky BFP soon. Although then you’ll have 9 whole months of waiting haha!
Post # 9
@Glasgowbound: Oh, as to how to handle it- I try to stay super busy being really active and spontaneous with friends and stuff. Plan little trips and go out for drinks and late movies, etc. I try to appreciate those things, and not being pregnant and appreciating my non-pregnant body and all the things I can do. And focusing on having lots of sex and quality time with my husband, because although I know we’ll be trilled with pregnancy and then children, it is good to really enjoy the child-free life while we still can!
Post # 10
@Glasgowbound: I agree about wishing time would speed up when TTC, because I sometimes felt the same way. I’m now 23 weeks into pregnancy, and while I’m excited and looking forward to the baby’s arrival, I’m also looking back at all the things I’ll NEVER BE ABLE TO DO AGAIN.
Even in pregnancy, I miss sushi, and lox, and drinking. It sounds stupid, and obviously I wouldn’t trade it, but DH and I used to get sushi a few times a month, split a bottle of wine, and enjoy an evening. Now I can only get boring rolls (I miss my spicy tuna!) and a couple sips of wine off his glass doesn’t cut it. I’ve gone to several weddings this summer as the DD, and when everyone’s raving about the beer options at the open bar and sampling new cocktails, I feel left out. Then on the dance floor when everyone’s rocking out in their drunkenness, and I’m completely aware of every awkward dance move I make, I find myself left out of that too.
Parenthood is going to be even more of a transition. In some ways I’ll regain my life (my body, my sushi privileges, an occasional night out on the town), but in other ways I’ll never be able to turn off the fact that I have a child. I won’t be able to laze in bed on weekend mornings, go out for a dinner date on a whim, or do anything else without extensive planning.
I don’t want to sound ungrateful, because obviously I believe all of this will be worth it, but my advice is to enjoy your life as much as possible for each step of the way, because you will literally NEVER be able to go back to this stage. Enjoy spontaneous adventures. Enjoy sex. Enjoy sleeping in. Enjoy exotic foods. Savor your life right now, and then when you do get KU, you’ll be so excited but also not have any regrets about how you spent your last months of being completely in control of your life and body.
Post # 11
IT IS SO FRUSTRATING!!!! I can totally relate to the feeling of wanting to be pregnant again after the miscarriage. We barely hit the FW this cycle, if at all, but I’m still holding out hope and counting the days. A week and two days til AF should arrive. Month after month it is TORTURE!!!!! I’ve been keeping track of my TWW symptoms on FF because every month I’m like “oh my boobs hurt, must be my month!” then I look back at FF and see that my boobs hurt last cycle too. UGHHHHH.
Post # 12
@Glasgowbound: I hear your frustration. Last month was our first month of trying and that was a frustrating enough amount of time. Relax so you’re not putting too much pressure and then stress on yourself and as @ZoeyGirl: says enjoy living spontaneously while you can. Wishing you luck for a BFP soon.