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LOL, I feel you! My mom never RSVP'd. I would keep nagging her about it, and she would say "Well you obviously know I'm coming!" and I would reply "Yeah, well your RSVP has a stamp on it, so SEND IT BACK!" She never did.
I would call everyone whom didnt RSVP as well. I mean geeze I have declined to go to wedding in the past and I still sent the RSVP back ASAP. Its just being considerate
OMG! I just don't get it! It's already filled out with their names, and how many seats are reserved and stamped. Check yes or no. I am not asking for your first born or for blood. Send me my shit back for crying out loud.
I refuse to get bit**y but I can feel it coming.
I always send RSVP's back immediately, even If I can't make it. It is just common courtesy to give someone an answer. I hate playing the waiting game, so I try not to do it to other people.
I for one say you just ring all the people up and get a def. yes or no. That will help reduce your stress!
@Miss. Meeps: I am fine if people can't come. I understand if things come up or take precedent over me and FI's wedding, but at least have the courtesy to tell me. I won't get mad and insist you change your plans. Just tell me. I wish people would be more like you and have that respect of letting the bride and groom know. :)
@mrskisstobe: Wow, you literally did everything for them. I mean, how hard is it to circle "yes" or "no". I feel for you. Take deep breaths!!!
I am definitely going to be calling/emailing and texting to find out if they are coming. My grandma even sent hers in and I know for sure she will be there. :)
@Whimsical.Sprite: I know
But, I must be asking the impossible to have people send it back.
that is annoying and frustrating...My brother told me not to even bother with sending an RSVP to him cause he was not going to mail it back, his logic was i'm going to be there so don't ask.
@mrskisstobe: Check yes or no. I am not asking for your first born or for blood. Send me my shit back for crying out loud.
Ha!
Can you enlist your mom or FMIL to lean on some of the family to send back the RSVP or confirm?
My mom will be able to help me out a bunch. FMIL, yea, not so much. They haven't even sent me theirs. I will be surprised if she even knows where the damn thing is. Their house could be on hoarders. The woman has 8 clocks in their living room, of which only ONE works. She is a whole other issue. She would be the reason we are going back into the church to dismiss everyone, because if we have a receiving line, we would be there till dark with her chatting!
Don't feel like a bridezilla. I feel like no one ever knows the pain of the RSVP until they've planned a wedding themselves! I never understood why it was so difficult to check yes or no and chicken or beef. It's why I immediately send back my RSVP as soon as I get it.
Most people know that they can or can't go. It's not like everyone is deciding, "Hmmm...should I wash my hair that day or go to so and so's wedding? Tough choice..." Just send it back already!
oh hells no, it is not an accepted practice to "assume" final guest count for your wedding, don't know what that girl is talking about. i was lucky enough to have most of my rsvp's returned well in advance of my cutoff date, but still had to call up the stragglers to confirm.
if that's what you gotta do then it's what you gotta do. but for the record your annoyance is totally justified. btw-best thread title ever lol!
@j.grossman13: I am going to have to remove all pens/pencils/markers from my desk for the time being.
And yea, this bridesmaid is already on my shit list. She's lucky I didn't jump through the screen at her. I was thinking, yea, let me assume I only have 200 coming and then when 275 show up, I will take her dinner and her hubbys and give it to someone else. How's that for assuming shit?? 
@mrskisstobe: don't you dare stab yourself in the eye!
Think about your wedding photos!
@SoontobeMrsA: Well if I used a turquoise marker or a black one, I would at least match my colors!
I have now comforted myself with a box of junior mints and milk duds! Damn you non-RSVP ers, it will be their fault if the dress doesn't fit now!
@mrskisstobe: well they do make black eye patches.
You could say it was Johnny Depp inspired.
@SoontobeMrsA: Hell yeah! I could bedazzle one of those bad boys and rock it!
@mrskisstobe: haha when I hurt my eye on V-day, FI ordered me a special pink eye patch.
I am holding my head low in shame. I have my friends invite sitting on my countertop right now ready to go, but I keep forgetting to drop it in the mail. In my defense I did tell her I recieved it and I will be coming and she has 1 meal so nothing for me to check off. But I will remember this week to drop it in the mailbox. I swear!
@posh_princess: 
You have it ready, and are dropping it in the mail. You are awesome! I would be estatic if people even called and said, hey I got it and I am coming. But no one has even done that. You told her you were coming, so you did RSVP verbally. That counts in my book
My own bridesmaids haven't sent theirs in. I understand they are coming, but I still need to know if you are bringing your husband/boyfriend whatever. FI's parents haven't either. His grandma has. She rocks!
I would have your mom or MOH hound people then you wont be a bridezilla :)
People have been pretty good about rsvping so far but, they still have to april 28th to rsvp so we will see. That would piss me off to if i went through the trouble to make invites, send them out and have stamps on each rsvp to send them back and people felt like we should know that they are coming. I agree who wants to spend an extra $70 + per a person if they are not there. It sure adds up. Food is at least a 1/3 of our budget.
The thing that really peeves me off the most is, there are quite a few that see FI or I on a daily basis, HAND IT THE F**K TO ME IF YOU CAN'T BE BOTHERED TO MAIL IT BACK! Cheese and Rice people! Cheese and Rice!
@mrskisstobe: Thank you for making me smile! I have heard back from 1 person out of 5 in my bridal party (my sister). And I too am having difficulty with 1 bridesmaid. I actually just thought about giving her $150 for her dress and asking her to not be in the wedding but to just show up. But I'm not ready to lose that friendship today. Grrr!
I already had to ask FI to have the bottle of wine open and a glass poured for when I walk in the door. If that doesn't work- I may go with a pen in my eye! ;)
@Lolasmomma: HAHA! The one bridesmaid who told me to assume 60% is the one I am half tempted to give the boot to! She has tried to take over this wedding numerous times and she is on my last nerve. Maybe the pen will go in her eye:) HAHAHA!
I agree, it is frustrating when people dont rsvp, in my circle only about 10% of the guests will rsvp, but I plan to stalk them until i get a response.
Having said that I'm not expecting RSVPS from the people in the wedding party, or my parents because oFCOURSE they are coming!!!!!!
@mrskisstobe: I love it! In the news tomorrow morning "2 brides from weddingbee stab their bridesmaids in the eye with a pen!"
I have to be honest I can't think of 1 wedding I've been to that I've actually RSVP'ed using the card provided. I've almost always done it by phone, and a few by email. I'm just really not the type of person to get on sending something like an RSVP to someone in the mail. Sorry.
BUT I always tell people I'm coming.
I think its considered standard to follow up with people by phone. At least I fully planned on following up with people via the phone.
I would be estatic if they texted/called/ emailed, hell tell me on facebook! Just so I know they are coming.
***UPDATE***** I have the most amazing fiance ever. He saw how frustrated I was last night when I got home and so last night and today, he has been texting his guest list getting verbal RSVP's and reminding people to send them in. He is the greatest! I made sure to tell him how much I appreciate him and what he is doing and that it really means a lot to me.
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I am so beyond pissy right now. We sent out invites and we have gotten back about 30 RSVPs. Yay!!
5 of bridesmaids haven't even sent theirs back yet. Seriously? Yes, I know you are in the wedding and will be there. Send me the G**Da** RSVP back you lazy ass! Same goes with the groomsmen. Have gotten only 3 of those.
So one of the bridesmaids who hasn't sent hers has the balls to tell me that most people don't RSVP and that I should just assume only 60% will come because that's what she did for her wedding 10 YEARS AGO! Piss off! Is what I wanted to say. I told her that I needed a pretty close to exact headcount because I refuse to pay for extra food if I don't need to and I would hate to not have enough food either. She said, well, most people won't send theirs back. I said, well I will be calling/emailing/texting whatever to find out and if they give me a wishy washy answer, I will just say that we will miss having them there.
I am turning into a gigantic bridezilla. I just know. My face is on fire right now. I don't like being bit**y. But what else am I suppose to do?
I know we have plenty of time to get in touch with people and I even thought about posting something on facebook saying something like, sure wish people would send us their RSVPs. But then those who didn't get invited will be pissed.