Post # 1
My rings will be custom made once I settle on a design. It’s so hard when you can have anything you want. I have been trying to figure it out for over a year.
Anyway, I want to wear both rings before I get married. We don’t plan on marrying for years after we get engaged, like 3+ years. I guess we just do things at a really slow pace. We’ve been together 9.5 yrs at this point, straight through, no breakups. We just drag ass I guess. Also, he’s waiting on me to decide on a design.
Anyway, I want to wear both rings, and it turns out SO wants me to wear both too so guys will think I’m married. Men lol.
Btw, we’ve been together so long, we’re considered common law husband and wife in our state, but that only means if one of us died, the other would inherit the money and belongings just like a wife or husband would.
So, is it ok to wear the set even before we get married? I dunno…but I really want to :/
Post # 3
You are 100% entitled to do whatever you want! So if you both want you to wear both rings before the wedding, then go for it!
That being said, I, personally, would not wear them both until after the ceremony. I’m enjoying the engagement ring phase of my life, it’s a constant reminder of how exciting this time is, and it only has 299 more days to be one my finger alone. Don’t get me wrong, I am dying to have my wedding band on too, but that all just adds to the anticipation and excitement for me. I can’t wait for after the ceremony when I look down at it in all its newness and know that it means that we are officially married.
Post # 4
@IheartUFC: No one can tell you what you can or can’t put on your finger, but I think it will be much more special if you wait and then wear your wedding ring only after your SO gives it to you during the ceremony.
Post # 5
Do whatever you want, who cares.
Post # 6
I think you should do what you want. I wouldn’t because to me that band means you are married, which even though you would be common law-you are planning a wedding and will some day be legally married. I would wait until then to wear the band.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@Audrey2: I think it will be much more special if you wait and then wear your wedding ring only after your SO gives it to you during the ceremony.
I agree with this. I was with my guy for a LONG time too, like 13 years, before we got married. But having him put on the wedding ring in our ceremony and having it on my hand from then after has been really special.
Post # 8
Our rings came in about a week ago and I am DYING to wear mine, but I am not going to. I think it will make it less special when we get married. One of the things I am looking forward to most is exchanging rings with my man and I do not want to ruin that moment. So I voted no.
Post # 9
I don’t understand, if you want to wear both rings so men think you’re married, why not get married? You’ve been together 9.5 years, why are you waiting another 3 to get married?
Not judging about that, DH and I were together 12 before we got engaged….but I wasn’t walking around with an engagment ring on my finger before he popped the question.
Techically you can do whatever you want, and strangers certainly won’t know you’re not married. However, your family/friends who know you aren’t married will most likely side eye you for it. My friends, and especially DH’s friends, would have ragged me so hard had I done that.
Post # 10
@IheartUFC: I am waiting to wear my ring until after the ceremony (although we do try them on several times a month!), but I don’t think it’s a big deal if you want to wear yours now. I think the meaning of the ring is more what you put into it, so do what you feel comfortable with! I’m waiting because I feel like the ring has meaning and distinguishes my married life from this time in my life. Also, as much as I want to wear it now, I know I’ll have the rest of my life to wear it! But I put that meaning into the rings and I don’t think everyone should feel that way – it’s personal. So I say go for it if you want to and don’t think you’ll regret it later!
Post # 11
Agree with previous comments. Why not just get married now (or soon)? Why are you waiting 3 years? I don’t think you should wear the wedding band until you are actually married.
Post # 12
@IheartUFC: I wore my wedding band with ering a couple times before we were married, but then put it back in the safe as I wanted it to be really special on our wedding day. I think you should do what makes you happy though!
Post # 13
@IheartUFC: Do whatever you want! Every relationship and every marriage is different, and each couple has to do what feels best to them. Also, don’t listen to anyone that says it’s bad luck. Make your own luck!
Post # 14
Hmm… don’t think I’d wear my wedding band beforehand just so my FI feels more secure about other guys checking me out.
A wedding band is not a symbol for “This girl is mine, back off.” That’s too territorial for my tastes.
Sorry I know that sounds not-so-nice – It’s just my personal opinion!
I would wait until he gives it to me as a symbol of his commitment and love.
We both put our wedding bands in our safe so we don’t lose them/ play with them and that keeps them “special” for the wedding.
Post # 15
@IheartUFC: I don’t see what the big deal is. It’s a free country, it’s YOUR jewelry and wearing a band before you’re married isn’t going to take anything away from anyone else. Do what makes you happy! 🙂
Post # 16
You guys are right. It would take away from when I actually get to wear it. Maybe I should hold off on having the band made because I’d be too tempted…