(Closed) I was ask if i'm expecting… :( feeling like a fat cow right now

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@malouloune: tell your husband to go fuck himself and to carry a baby for 9 months, birth it and care for it and tell him to show you how awesome his stomach looks after. what a fucking asshole!

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am sorry, geeze.  Everyone needs to lay off!  Bodies change with babies, people!  I once had someone ask me if I “had my baby.”  (This was years ago before I was married.) 

“Um, no.” 

“I thought you were pregnant at the begining of the semester.”

“!!!!!!”

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

If you are uncomfortable with your weight and don’t have time to exercise, you can still eat healthier & eat less which can result in weight loss. Your child is only 6 months old and for some women it takes even longer for their bellies to go down completely, if ever.

Screw what other people say or think about you, that is the problem with people these days. WHO CARES what they say or think?

As for your husband- what an ass.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I never understood why people think it’s okay to just ask a woman that. I’ve had several people ask me that at different times in my life, and it really bothers me, because I don’t look like it at all. But for your husband to ask you what’s going on with your belly… um.. I probably would have said some not very nice things. He needs to be a little more careful with his words, and realize that you just had a baby.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Big HUGS to you!!  I’m so sorry you are feeling this way (and that your hubster isn’t helping a bunch).  I know you are extremely busy but have you thought about buying some workout DVD’s (like P90X, Insanity, Zumba) and doing those in the comfort of your own home.  You could do them when the baby is asleep or chilling in their pack n play.  And if something comes up (poopy diaper, crabby baby) you can always pause the DVD and go back to it later.

By the way – I was asked last week if I was expecting by my future mother in law.  Not because of how my body looked…but because I went home sick from work.  Umm…no MIL with a case of grandma fever.  I had the FLU which caused me to puke for half a day and have mad chills along with body aches. 

People are just insensitive a-holes when it comes to stuff like that. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@malouloune:  just be glad you are not as tactless as the person who asked you that question. you can’t fix stupid.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

@roweboat:  +1 to everything you said.

OP it sounds like you’re being conscious of what you’re eating, so screw them and keep doing what you’re doing

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

Wow. Does your husband not realize that you just popped out a kid 6 months ago? What a jerk. As far as the person who asked if you were pregnant… I don’t get why people ask that, ever. I worked for a maternity store, and we never flat out asked a customer if they were pregnant or not. We would ask who they were shopping for, and if it was for themselves THEN it was the, “Oh when are you due? ๐Ÿ™‚ “

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I am really sorry to hear this, and as a person who has also struggled with body image issues my whole life I can relate. I can also relate to being very busy. I just recently got a gym membership and since I am paying for it, I am motivated to go. The only thing I can tell you is that every study I have ever read shows that diet is 80% and exercise is 20% of losing weight. Start eating healthy and you will be amazed at how you lose weight without ever working out. Exercising does help a lot, don’t get me wrong, you will lose weight faster, but start small and eat right and you will see results!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@malouloune:  I am so sorry that you are feeling this way today!

First, you need to remember that nature makes it so that moms are snuggly for their babies and so dieting at the time that you are supposed to be snuggly is twice the battle of waiting until you have time to focus on your body.

Second, dieting and exercise may not take away the baby belly at all and I have met too many women that starve themselves to look grotesquely thin (with their baby bellies still there).

It can be pretty normal for your ‘baby belly’ to stay this way for some time (more than a year or two) depending on genetics. Take a look at other female members of your family, did they have baby bellies for a period of time afterward? What is their skin ‘bounce-back’ like?

I looked around my own family and realized (through pictures) that every woman in the family seemed a bit bigger until the children had their kindergarten pictures. Sure enough, once my kids hit kindergarten, I shrunk…without dieting.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It took you 9 months to put it on, it’s going to take at least 9 months to get rid of it (especially considering that we all know it’s WAY harder to lose than to gain!).

If you work 8-5, then you have an hour for lunch, right? I would suggest getting out for a walk- you can probably fit in at least a half and hour. More if you eat at your desk before or afterwards. Also, I know not everyone can/wants to, or you might be already, but breastfeeding burns about 500 calories a day!

I can’t believe the comments that people think are ok to make about a woman’s body. F that shit and focus on being healthy! Also kudos to you for working full time and going to school.

 

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

1. I completely understand how you feel. I’ve never even been pregnant and I get asked all the time if I am. On one hand, it just kind of confuses me. I’ve been asked by customers who see me everyday and know what I look like, so you would think by now they should know that I’m just fat. On another hand, I feel like I should be grateful that I at least look pregnant and not just overweight? Idk. Its weird. I’ve been asked if I was pregnant so many times by now that I just blow it off. It made me so upset the first few times though.

2. Your husband is a jack ass. What a rude comment for him to make.

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