Post # 1
August 10, 2012 my Grandma passed away. I was (and still am) totally heartbroken. We were very,very close. I’ve had an influx of emotions come back to me as I’ve been talking to a co-worker about his grandma who isn’t doing well. I’ll avoid going into too many details as I don’t want to start bawling at work 😉
Anyways, she told my grandpa that she wanted me to have her wedding set when she passed. I was overwhelmed. There any many girls in our family, including an aunt & my mother. My mother was very close with her & I was quite shocked she did not inherit it. I’m extremely grateful that she asked me to have it. But, I’ve been torn on what I should do with it. I wear it some days, but I thought about “doing something” with it so that I could wear it daily. I was thinking about getting the metals melted down and made into a band (perhaps my wedding band (still waiting)?)…
I guess I’m torn. I don’t want to be disrespectful by changing it, but I also would like to wear it daily… If that makes any sense. I’m totally clueless on what my options are and what expenses I would be facing. Does anyone have any suggestions?
I’ve tried cleaning it on my own & made pretty good progress but I think it needs to be cleaned professionally. There is also a wire band at the bottom that was added when she started to lose weight and the ring didn’t fit anymore. I would also like to get this removed, but then the ring definitely won’t fit anymore.
I thought I had a picture of it on my phone, but I don’t, I will add tonight. There are 3 very, very tiny diamonds. With some delicate design on the wedding band. The band is soldered to the e-ring.
Post # 3
@FutureMrsM87: I would love to see a picture of it, let me know when its uploaded!!
You could save it for your own wedding set when you get engaged (if your not already) OR just wear it as a right hand ring on a daily basis!
Post # 4
I love PP’s idea of wearing it on your right hand until you get married. That is so, so sweet that you inherited it and now are able to use it. I don’t think it’s disrespectful if you melt it down or change it. The sentiment is still there, and it’s still your grandmother’s ring!
Post # 5
I got my grandmother’s engagement ring as well. I felt torn about changing it, but in the end I wanted to to reflect my style, so I took the stone out and had it re-set into a setting I picked. I know she would have liked it!
Take the ring to a jewelry store and ask for advice. Getting a ring re-set and sized shouldn’t be very expensive.
Post # 6
I don’t think you’ll find many places that will be willing to melt down the metal and make the ring into something else. I remember reading a thread about that on Pricescope, and a lot of the vendors chimed in to say the metal would be sold as scrap to a reclaimer probably.
I think you should have it cleaned and resized and wear it on your right hand. If I was your mother or one of your aunts or cousins, I’d probably be really hurt if you wanted to melt down the metal and have the ring redone.
Post # 8
My mother inherited my grandmother’s set and recently told me she would like to gift it to me. Without hesitation, I know I would like to incorporate it into my wedding band somehow. I don’t think there is anything wrong with melting it down, but that is my personal opinion. I know I would like to modify my grandmother’s ring, because I know that every time I look at the ring, I will think of her and remember the wonderful relationship she and my grandfather shared. I don’t need the ring to be in it’s original state to remember what it represents for me.
No matter what you decide, you’re very lucky to have her wedding set!
Post # 9
I would wear it as a RHR until you get married, then use it as a wedding band!
If you really want something “your” style, then I’d just wear two bands! Your grandma’s, and one of your choosing!
Post # 10
@SimplyEuphoric: I will upload one tonight! I am so bugged that I deleted off the image off my phone (stupid iOS update needed space). I was thinking about wearing it as my RHR, I will have to get it re-size though.
@Brideonabudgetlauren: Ah, I still can’t decide what I want to do!
@hassle_J: The diamonds are very tiny I’m not sur what re-setting options I would have. You’re probably right though, a jewlery store might be a good place to start. Did you use a chain? Or a local? I’m not sure which would be more helpful and receptive.
@cmbr: That’s what I’m trying to avoid- hurting anyones feelings. I think I might talk it over with my mom and see what she says. I don’t want anyone to think that I was more concerned about the style then the sentiment, because that’s most definitely not how I feel!
@windyPhoebee: Good perspective. I agree, I think it would add extra sentiment to my wedding band. Have you looked into melting her’s down yet? I definitely feel very lucky!
@BrandNewBride: Right now her wedding band is soldered to the e-ring. Do you know if they can be seperated (feasibly?) I love the idea of adding her band with my set (I’m not engaged yet, but hope to be by the end of the year) and then wearing her engagement ring as a RHR.
Post # 11
I’d keep it as a RHR. Let your man buy you a ring that’s from his heart, not from grandma’s. That way there are no negative associations in the event that the relationship goes sour.
Post # 12
@FutureMrsM87: I second pp’s idea to use the band in your wedding set as a stacker. Usually rings can be unsoldered and restored unless there is a ton of engraving or pave detail or something. The ering can go on your right hand! Orrr you can unsolder the rings, keep half the set, and give the other half to your mom 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@FutureMrsM87: I inherited my grandmother’s wedding set too, which included an anniversary gemstone band too. All three rings were easily unsoldered. Such a nice way to stay close to her 🙂
Post # 14
I’d have it sized and wear it as a RHR.
Post # 15
I also would keep it as a RHR. Love the heirloom pieces. my condolences on the loss of your grandma.
Post # 16
I wouldn’t melt it down, you might regret that later. You could however get it “rebuilt” if it’s delicate and worn down. I have my great gannies ring and I would like to get it “rebuilt”. The ring will look the same but newer and shiner. Or just wear as a RHR