I was given my grandmothers wedding set

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@FutureMrsM87:  I would love to see a picture of it, let me know when its uploaded!! 


You could save it for your own wedding set when you get engaged (if your not already) OR just wear it as a right hand ring on a daily basis!

Post # 4
3089 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I love PP’s idea of wearing it on your right hand until you get married.  That is so, so sweet that you inherited it and now are able to use it.  I don’t think it’s disrespectful if you melt it down or change it.  The sentiment is still there, and it’s still your grandmother’s ring!

Post # 5
811 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I got my grandmother’s engagement ring as well.  I felt torn about changing it, but in the end I wanted to to reflect my style, so I took the stone out and had it re-set into a setting I picked.  I know she would have liked it! 

Take the ring to a jewelry store and ask for advice.  Getting a ring re-set and sized shouldn’t be very expensive.

Post # 6
3659 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think you’ll find many places that will be willing to melt down the metal and make the ring into something else. I remember reading a thread about that on Pricescope, and a lot of the vendors chimed in to say the metal would be sold as scrap to a reclaimer probably.

I think you should have it cleaned and resized and wear it on your right hand. If I was your mother or one of your aunts or cousins, I’d probably be really hurt if you wanted to melt down the metal and have the ring redone.

Post # 8
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

My mother inherited my grandmother’s set and recently told me she would like to gift it to me. Without hesitation, I know I would like to incorporate it into my wedding band somehow. I don’t think there is anything wrong with melting it down, but that is my personal opinion. I know I would like to modify my grandmother’s ring, because I know that every time I look at the ring, I will think of her and remember the wonderful relationship she and my grandfather shared. I don’t need the ring to be in it’s original state to remember what it represents for me.

No matter what you decide, you’re very lucky to have her wedding set!

Post # 9
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would wear it as a RHR until you get married, then use it as a wedding band!

If you really want something “your” style, then I’d just wear two bands! Your grandma’s, and one of your choosing!

Post # 11
629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’d keep it as a RHR. Let your man buy you a ring that’s from his heart, not from grandma’s. That way there are no negative associations in the event that the relationship goes sour.

Post # 12
5482 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@FutureMrsM87:  I second pp’s idea to use the band in your wedding set as a stacker. Usually rings can be unsoldered and restored unless there is a ton of engraving or pave detail or something. The ering can go on your right hand! Orrr you can unsolder the rings, keep half the set, and give the other half to your mom 🙂

Post # 13
8847 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@FutureMrsM87:  I inherited my grandmother’s wedding set too, which included an anniversary gemstone band too.  All three rings were easily unsoldered.  Such a nice way to stay close to her 🙂

Post # 14
6959 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’d have it sized and wear it as a RHR.

Post # 15
1171 posts
Bumble bee

I also would keep it as a RHR. Love the heirloom pieces. my condolences on the loss of your grandma. 

Post # 16
41 posts
  • Wedding: August 2008

I wouldn’t melt it down, you might regret that later. You could however get it “rebuilt” if it’s delicate and worn down. I have my great gannies ring and I would like to get it “rebuilt”. The ring will look the same but newer and shiner. Or just wear as a RHR

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