(Closed) “I was going to….”

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
1986 posts
Buzzing bee

Ha FI has said that a couple times. I’ve told him back ” well I was going to have some wicked good sex with you tonight, but now I’m kinda burnt out and just want to sleep”.

Nice dose of instant karma ;D

Post # 4
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

“Holidays suck, and so does PMS.”<–love it.

FI used to make plans with me, and then back out. I hated it, just like it sounds like you hate it when he tells you that he “almost” did something. I finally just flat out told him to not make plans if he wasn’t 100% certain he could follow through with them. Since then, we haven’t had too many problems with it. Maybe you could talk to him about how you don’t want to hear what he has almost done for you? Sometimes it’s best to just lay it all out, maybe add charts and graphs to really paint the picture ;).

Post # 5
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714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Isilme:  Hmmm, maybe I’m being too cynical but it sounds like he wants the credit for the gifts he thought about giving you.  Yeah, not so much  – particularly when its a recurring theme. 

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with telling him nicely that you’d prefer not to hear about things he didn’t do.  Also – gifts don’t have to cost money (or very much). 

Post # 7
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2321 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If it were once or twice, I can understand. Circumstances prevail after all. But this seems to be happening regularly. Just use the ‘wicked sex’ line the PP mentioned. Lol!

Or just nicely let him know that you understand things are difficult for him and you rather not get your hopes up for no results. Tell him it hurts your feelings too that you were told to expect something but never got. That does not make you feel special, but it makes you feel insulted.

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