Post # 1
So a few months ago, SO promised me that we would be engaged by the time we move in together in the spring. After this conversation, I got really excited and started suspecting he may be planning to propose over the holidays, since we both love this time of year and it is coincidentally the time of year we started dating 3 years ago. But, during one of our many future-related discussions the other day, SO let me know that there was DEFINITELY no proposal in the works at the moment. I tried not to be upset, but I couldn’t help but be disappointed, since I thought he would pick this time of year to propose because of sentimental reasons. He said something like, “You like warm weather better anyway…” And I couldn’t help but think, What the heck does the weather have to do with it?!?! I have been waiting anxiously for him to propose for about a year now and the suspense is really starting to get to me.
I am trying to keep my cool and not pressure him, but now I have to sit and jealously watch my Facebook feed blow up with holiday engagements AND continue explain to my nosy family that “No, SO isn’t dragging his feet…he just needs a little bit more time”..grrr. Any other Bees out there in the same situation? If so…vent away! You are not alone, lol.
Post # 3
@blushblossom91: Holiday proposals are cliche. Stay strong.
Post # 4
@HannahGrace: Thanks! I’m keeping that in mind. Half of me wants it to be unique and unexpected, but the other half just wants it to happen already! I am sure I would prefer the surprise route in the long run though 🙂
Post # 5
I hear you… it’s all I want for Christmas…not to sound cheesy. We’ve been together over 4 years now and we even broke up for a while to go out separate ways. When he realized he was comparing all his other dates to me, and they were falling short, he came back to me. That was 3 years ago and everyday is better than the one before. The only downer is this engagement. The holiday jewelry store commercials are painful but at least that’s one way of keeping it on his mind…my news feed is my own torture. Now all of my exes are engaged or married and every one of his friends seems to catch the proposal bug.
If you figure out a way to deal, let me know. I have zero advice but at least I can offer solidarity 🙂
Post # 6
@Soon_2B_MrsV: Ugh the commercials are horrible! I am just like OH SHUT UP KAY JEWELERS hahaha. My friends probably think I’ve lost it. Right now I am trying to keep myself distracted with Christmas shopping and other holiday-related planning…But it never lasts long! Hang in there!
Post # 7
I wasn’t exactly expecting a proposal, but I thought maybe, just maybe my SO would propose to me on our 5th anniversary (Nov. 2nd) but that didn’t happen, obviously, LOL. Oh well….
Post # 8
@HannahGrace: It’s so cool of you to say that (about holiday proposals being cliche). You are so right! We all feel “left out” of all these other people getting engaged and we’re still waiting, but I suppose it might be even more fun if it was a different time of year and not in the midst of 2700 other couples’ proposals..
That being said, yes I can relate! In the past month, I know at least 4 couples who have gotten engaged, including my best friend and my cousin. Facebook is kind of scary for that reason. I know a proposal is coming soon – we have been ring shopping and SO is trying to decide from many different choices we both like, but he told me he wants it to be a surprise so it may be awhile. Oy! LOL.
Post # 9
Actually, funny story! I knew that FI and I weren’t getting engaged over the holidays last year, but my entire family (including aunts, uncles, and cousins) were just so sure that it was going to happen for Christmas. It didn’t. BUT, when we had our traditional family exchanging of gifts, my aunt got me this set of plates. On each plate is a cute little drawing and something like “All I want for Christmas is a new pair of shoes” or “all I want for Christmas is a brand new purse” etc etc…but the last plate I pulled out (mind you, I was reading each plate out loud) said “But what I really want for Christmas is a big fat ring!” and it has an illustration of a diamond engagement ring!
My FI went beet red AND choked on his beer!! Needless to say, I had a ring a few short weeks later. I can lend you the plates!!! They worked for me ;P
Haha but in all seriousness, don’t worry about what everyoe else is thinking. They can push and prod all they want, but it will happen when it happens. And it does sound like he has some sort of plan. Now, if summer rolls around…and still no ring? He has some ‘splainin to do!
Post # 10
Totally in the same boat. I’m certain it’s not happening over the holidays, and I’m getting over the fact that it probably won’t happen on our Iceland trip at the end of January (although this would be my dream proposal). Doesn’t stop me fantasizing that I could be wrong and just when I think it won’t happen he’ll whip out a ring box and surprise me! Cliche or not, I wouldn’t say no 🙂
Post # 11
He could be trying to dissappoint you and throw you off his trail, so you don’t keep expecting it. He could have something HUGE planed to propose for x-mas or new years eve.. Be patient and if it doesn’t happen now… then be patient. It will happen when He wants it… Good luck.
Post # 12
@blushblossom91: don’t worry, whenever he proposes will be the PERFECT time to get engaged!
I actually have always told my SO that I DO NOT WANT a holiday proposal. No birthdays, DEFINITELY no valentines, no Christmas, etc etc! I think they are kind of cheesy! We have an end of the year deadline, and planned to buy a ring in August. Well, things don’t always work out the way you planned! My ring is actually being custom made right now, and it will be done just in time for.. you guessed it.. a holiday proposal!
I KNOW he won’t do it Christmas or Christmas eve, but pretty much any proposal in the month of December qualifies as one IMO. He MIGHT do it NYE, which is when we had our first kiss, and would literally be the last moment he could propose and still meet his deadline haha. Anyway, my point is, I’m more than likely getting the proposal at the exact time I always said I DIDN’T. But am I going to say no? Of course not! And i’m sure it will be special, even amidst all the other proposals happening. And yours will be special too! Even if it’s at 2pm on a Thursday afternoon!
I’m sorry you’re not getting it when you hoped for, but hang in there! Maybe he has something up his sleeve! 😉
Post # 13
Maybe SO is trying to trick you? My FI bought my ring last October and told me he had no plans of proposing until Spring. He asked me in November and had just been trying to throw me off!
Post # 14
Just reiterate to him that it is very important to you that you are engaged before living together.
Post # 15
Just try and enjoy what you two have now. You have the rest of your lives to be married to each other.
Whenever I find myself feeling a bit jealous after seeing another facebook engagement, I remind myself how great I actually have it. And at the end of the day, I wouldn’t change anything about my SO or our relationship (even if that meant being engaged)
It will happen when its the right time for the both of you.
Post # 16
@blushblossom91: DH always kept saying “it will happen soon!” It didn’t take him long and even though he didn’t propose during Christmas (we were apart) I “thought” he might do it on NYE. He didn’t but waited a week….he said he was waiting for the perfect time. He’s not a planner so the fact that he had the ring 3 weeks before proposing is HUGE.