I was in her wedding but we grew apart. Do I have to invite her to my wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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6506 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I wouldn’t invite her. 

I would consider inviting her if we had just grown apart, however, I wouldn’t invite someone who I had a falling out with (especially if things are still awkward!).

Post # 4
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1169 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@stephers11:  As women, I would say that not inviting a friend is making the final gesture that the friendship is over (especially if you’re having a large wedding). So… if you’re ready to say goodbye to the friendship, do not invite her. It’s not about ettiquette. You don’t have to invite her just because you went to her wedding, things are different now. If you’re ready to put the final nail in the coffin of this friendship (and it sounds like you are) then don’t invite her. 

Post # 5
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1881 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Well…did you grow apart or did you have a fight and stop being friends? If you had just grown apart, I would say invite her. But if you stopped being friends, then I would not invite her. 

Post # 8
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1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Nope don’t invite anyone you don’t want to.  I was a MOH in my ex-bstfriends wedding just 2 years ago and I was gonna ask her to be in mine but then stuff happened and we no longer talk so she will not be getting an invite to my wedding.

Post # 9
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344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m in a similar situation was MOH for my ex-bestfriend. Things have changed and even though we did not have a major fall out, we just grew apart. Even though I wish I could invite her there is really no point. Most times if you have to question whether to invite someone, the best thing is not to because it will make things more awkward!!!

 

 

Post # 11
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6812 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

If you invited her, do you think she’d even come? If she came, would you be upset to see her there?

Post # 13
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6812 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@stephers11:  personally, i’d say perhaps it’s time to have a real adult sit down and talk about what happened. make a decision after that talk, depending on how it goes.

Post # 14
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214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

@stephers11:  I had a similar guest list situation. My best friend from high school and I fell apart when going to college. We grew apart and had both said some nasty things to each other. I have not had any real conversation with her in almost 2 years. When I was planning my guest list I questioned inviting her and here is how I made up my mind, if she was getting married and I was not invited would I be upset? Answer: Yes. So I invited her. I’m super glad I did. We’ve talked a few times, we’ve both grown up and I think she is truly and genuenly happy to be part of my day.

Ask yourself this, if this girl was getting married (I know she already is married but just pretend) and you did not get an invitation would you be hurt or upset? 

If yes invite her

If you truly think you would care less don’t invite her 

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