I was invited to the shower… I think?!

posted 2 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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730 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

This is one of those tricky situations.  I would speak with your BFF and let her know you’re feeling uncomfortable/awkward about not receiving a true invite to the shower.  Let your BFF know that you would not be offended whatsoever if you were not invited.  You just want clarity over what you’re supposed to do.  Hopefully your BFF can have a conversation with the bride to clear things up.

I would also feel awkward about it.  A similar issue happened with my husband and I.  We had been asked to “save-the-date” and the bride and groom requested our address, but an invitation to the wedding was never received.  Eventually hubby followed up with the groom who gave some excuse that I can’t remember…along the lines of “oh I was supposed to mail yours and I forgot, but here, write down the details…”  Needless to say, we politely declined and did not attend the wedding.  In my opinion, if someone wants you there, they will do what’s necessary to ensure you’re properly invited.  End of story.

Post # 4
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2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

…..was there drinking involved at the bonfire?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

 

mchitt329:  LOL, I just thought to myself “that sounds like something I would do when drunk-invite everyone and their mother, and then later forget”.

I would say whether or not you follow-up depends on whether you really want to go….since you bought a gift, I’d vote one more follow-up with your BFF can’t hurt. But I’d also make it clear that you’re totally cool if you aren’t invited so she doesn’t feel guilty, etc.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Just send the bride a text/e-mail asking for the details.  A verbal invite is still an invite.  It is incredibly rude to rescind a verbal invite, and if you get anything less than a “Really hope you can make i!!t” in response, it’s the bride being impolite, not you.  

Post # 9
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1473 posts
Bumble bee

Well, if you’re only going to give BFF company, then you’ll have to leave it up to BFF to give you the details. THe bride invited you, so it’s not weird if you show up. Once you get the details, you can confirm with the bride that you’re coming.

If you don’t feel like hounding your BFF again for the details, then just leave it up to her to get back to you. The ball is in her court, no use in you stressing about it. 

Post # 11
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1244 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I wouldn’t go. If bride-to-be really wanted you there, she would make sure you got the information. Since you already reached out to your friend and got no response, don’t go any further with it.

Post # 12
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2704 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

spiffanee:  +1

I agree. I wouldn’t push it any further. If she actually wanted you there she would have fiven you an invite, you shouldn’t have to track down the info.

Return the gifts and buy yourself something! Yay presents! 🙂

Post # 13
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650 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Personally, I’d consider that a non-invite, and return the gift if you still don’t hear. It’s such an exciting time, I think I probably invited people on my honeymoon when I was engaged. 

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