(Closed) I was raised to earn my own $$ and be able to support myself before…

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

What is the point of this post exactly?

Not that I don’t agree with you because I do… to an extent! I am finishing up my PhD in a year and think it’s important for everyone to become successful independently. However, if we could afford for me to stay at home I would LOVE to be a SAHM. This is not very likely as I will be bringing in the larger income when I start my career but it is still something that I would love to do.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I plan to work all throughout having kids too, but just in defense of my own mother and other SAHMs – It’s not even that they don’t have a skill set, it’s that being out of the workforce for even just a few years can cripple your resume. My mom started totally over at a job she’d never had before after my parents divorced because she’d been out of the workforce for 18(!!) years. So if everything is subject to change when you do have kids and you still want to be able to support yourself and not become the case you’re talking about, better keep a finger in the work scene at all times 🙂 Cause it can happen to anyone.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Agreed – what is the point of this post?

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

I too am confused at the point of this post. I do think everyone should have some sort of skills to fall back on, just in case. I’m confused as to what sparked this.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@squeak:  what do you mean, not equal, but also not inferior????

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

What’s the point of this post?

I have my own job and I can support myself, but for myself and for my FI a big part of marriage is depending on each other in good times and bad. If times are good and we as a family can afford for me to stay home with our children, why is that anyone else’s business but my own?

FI and I have spoken many times about how we feel about marriage and divorce is just not an option for us. Of course, I cannot see the future, but if my FI were to leave me for whatever reason… I have a wonderful network of family and friends who will support me until I can get myself back on my feet, find a job, etc.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t really get the point of this post either.

I plan to be a SAHM when DH and I have kids but that doesn’t mean I don’t have the ability to support myself if the worst were to happen.  I have a BS in Biomedical Engineering with a high GPA, will have at least 5-6 years of full time work experience before we even start TTC (in addition to my 4 years worth of research in college), and am a quick learner with a lot of drive to do what is necessary should I be put in that situation.

I really don’t get how you can say that someone who chooses to stay at home with their children by default must be unable to support themselves.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Congratulations

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

@squeak:Wow, working moms are exhausted bitches? Really?

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

*facepalm*

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