(Closed) I Was Snubbed! (longish)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2385 posts
Buzzing bee

No experience like that comes to mind from my adult life, but my inner high schooler cringes for you. 

Post # 4
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee

I tend to think it’s an honest mistake as well, if its a first time thing. If the place was so busy that there were only seats at the bar then they probably did what they could. As for ordering food, sometimes the food just looks good?

Post # 6
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow is there any way that you can approach a few of them that you are close to and try to tell them how you feel about the situation.  I would hope it was a mistake but the fact that they didn’t even make room at the table for you bugs me.

Post # 7
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee

@Birdie Love: OK then yeah, sounds like something was up. Sorry hun 🙁

Post # 8
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1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I feel you girl.  I feel way more slighted than I should with social stuff all the time.  I suffer from social anxiety anyway, so if there’s even the slightest chance to feel alienated, that’s the way I’ll feel.  It happens a lot with my friends at work, with making lunch plans and stuff.  Something I’ve found that really helps is forcing myself to take a deep breath, saying to myself that it’s likely just in my head and distracting myself with something else.  9 times out of 10, someone will say something to confirm my suspicions were totally unfounded. 

I think it’s fairly normal to feel the way you do.  Just because we’re “grown up” doesn’t mean we can’t fall victim to hurt feelings from being excluded. 

Post # 9
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870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I would just ignor it for awhile. Don’t bring it up and if they do just brush it off but try to arrange to hang out again. If it happens again THEN you need to tell them how rude it is. I have tried to make plans with friends as adults to have them taxt me saying they can’t make it because something came up and then seeing on their FB that they went out with a different friend. Mega-awkward! I get upset about it but what can I do? I just sit back and enjoy more time with my FI and our son.

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