Post # 1
So a couple months ago my FI went to his good friend’s wedding. I wasn’t invited though which I thought was weird…apparently they had to keep the guest list under 200 and I didn’t make the cut. His friend lived in a different state…I met him once and we never met his new wife.
He had to spend $500 to travel to the wedding and get a hotel room alone. He gets to the wedding and all of their mutual friends (who also live in a different state from the friend) had their SO’s with them. Everyone was asking my FI where I was, and he felt kind of hurt about the whole situation since he considered this guy a good friend.
Now that we’re making our guest list…do we invite his wife to the wedding?? I’m tempted not to but I don’t know if that would be mean
Post # 3
@khaleesi: Just because they made an error in etiquette, doesn’t mean you should.
As our mothers used to say “Two wrongs don’t make a right.”
You already know the answer to your question.
Post # 4
@khaleesi: Well, it’s poor ettiquite, but I wouldn’t invite her
Post # 5
Unfortunately, you either have to invite both or nither. I would be temped to not invite her niether considering the situation.
Post # 6
Personally, I wouldn’t invite either of them and would’ve ditched the friendship immediately when I realized everyone else’s SO was invited but mine.
Anyone who treats my SO badly can kiss my ass.
Post # 7
Two wrongs don’t make a right-
Also … there is a difference between FI and Wife- FI is ALMOST one unit… but Husband and Wife ARE one unit….
Gosh that sounds awful and in a perfect world would be able to not even have to worry about it but someitmes there are “cuts”.
the other SO’s that got invited- Married or not yet?
Also did they know the bride?
Have you ever offended the friend? etc
Don’t worry about it. Be the bigger person.
Post # 8
If you’re inviting couples, you’re inviting couples. Simple as that.
Post # 9
I think you should invite her, it will probably make them feel quite bad that they both received and invite to yours but you didnt to theirs.
I’m sure when you see her she will have more of an explaination as to why they couldnt invite you to their wedding.
@julies1949: is correct, two wrongs don’t make a right.
You have a chance to be the bigger person.
Post # 10
Yup, either both or neither. From the information you’ve given, I would say neither.
Post # 12
That depends on if you want to be petty or not.
Post # 13
Man, I wouldn’t want to invite either of them! But to be gracefu (and the bigger person), it’s all or nothing.
Post # 14
Psssh I don’t think I’d invite either. How rude of them!
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Be classy and invite them both, she’s his wife and spouses always get an invite. Maybe since you never met her your husband’s friend didn’t argue very hard to include you since you weren’t married yet. With a guest list of 200 I’m sure there were a few people who ended up cut because the bride and or groom didn’t want to waste an invite on a stranger.