Post # 1
Has anyone been in a similar situation?
I have had 2 previous long term relationships (5 years and 3 years) where I never hit the waiting stage, I was OK just being the girlfriend and living together and wasn’t that bothered about ever getting married. With SO #3 however we have been together a little over a year and already I am in waiting mode.
What gives? It isn’t a biological clock thing as I don’t want kids, although I am almost 32 so wonder if it is somehow connected. I don’t believe in ‘the one’, so it can’t be that either. I feel a bit hormonal haha.
Post # 3
Yup! My brother was SHOCKED to discover that I am happy to have marriage on the table. He had always figured that I was a chronic commitment-phobe, and used that phrase to console a friend of his I dated once. I have had many exes who had marriage on the brain when I was in no rush. It just figures that now I’m the one who is dying to get married with a partner who wants to take his sweet time!
Post # 4
@inamorata: Maybe you just know that he’s someone you want to be with long term? It may also have to do with your friends- if most of them are married it changes your perception of normality. Nothing bad about that, I mean I’m not saying you’re trying to keep up or anything. I just think it can change your own attitude about it.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard
@inamorata: we definitely have some similarities. I was 32 when I realized I wanted to marry my SO, and we also don’t want kids. we had been dating for 2 years.
the thing is, it hit me like a punch in the face. I was standing in line at the grocery store and I saw the most gorgeous ring ever on the cover of a magazine. suddenly I thought “I want that” and then, “I want to get married! WTF?” before then I wasn’t even the slightest bit interested in marriage, weddings, rings, or anything.
I guess when it somes to certain people, they meet a truly teriffic person and it blindsides them out of nowhere!
Post # 6
Thanks bees, that really helps. 🙂
It is probably a combo of all of the above. I do have a lot of married friends now, none of whom went bridezilla or have changed since they were married. Also, SO has a really calming presence and I am happier now than I was in the previous relationships.