- 7 years ago
- Wedding: January 2011
I have had nothing but problems with this girl since day one and I have to admit… I’m not surprised… I should have known better than to have her as a BM. She thought she was going to plan our freaking wedding for us, she’s done nothing but backstab and talk negatively… she’s a control freak and cares of nobody but herself and what benefits her. It’s hard sitting here trying to paint the picture of her, so I’m just trying to think of the fastest way.
Anyway, ever since a blow up over my shower that’s being thrown for me, long story short, I haven’t spoken to her and she HAS been confronted, by my mother actually. And it worked out since I’m not having any involvement with the shower… my mother whom is 1,000% more tactful than me was totally in the place to confront her, especially since it did concern my mother regardless. So, she’s been put in her place at least.
Anyway, there’s a party tonight and I’m nervous of this girl. I’m nervous of her rapid fire questions, she asks you a thousand questions in 1 minute flat and just asks like she’s not paying attention but she’s drilling you for info to use against you. It’s hard to explain!!!!! That doesn’t even make sense… she’s manipulative… it’s weird… I got these two books, one is for dealing with manipulative people and the other is for dealing with controlling people… and it describes how you’ll walk away from a situation feeling like something was taken from you, like something isn’t right… like someone with ill intentions has washed this bad feeling all over you. That’s what it’s like with her.
My fiance just goes along with everything, like she could reel him away from me so then I HAVE to be in the convo with her (and any convo with her is always all about her) and then I’m sort of left in the dust, in the background.
I’m just powerless around her, and my fiance not getting it doesn’t help me. I feel like one puny little soldier against a million enemies when I’m around her.
She’s just so weird… and my fiance is going to drive me to my shower, which I only know the date, the place and everything is a surprise. And his sister said to my mother “uhm, will he be FORCED to take her there??” we still don’t get what the heck that is supposed to mean! So I am scared she’ll start saying that nonsense to me tonight. And I don’t know what to say. Her response to everything is in her paris hilton voice “but he’s like, my brother…” but what she is really saying is “but, like, you need to let me control this.”
Maybe someone anyone knows what I am going through?? I was thinking of not going but then I’m afraid of it hurting the situation. Like… it giving her the satisfaction I’m not there. Me missing out on a party. Her running her mouth… stuff like that.. not sure.