Post # 1
My daughter’s wedding is this weekend, and I received a text from a family friend who has just advised me that she has to babysit her neices. and will be unable to attend, blah blah blah….and the last line, “I will pay my way if it is going to cost you”
Firstly, via text
Secondly, hell yes it’s going to cost me ($150 a head) lol…..
What should I respond back with ??????
Post # 3
@nedaussie: well it sounds like she knows it’s going to cost you and she’s offering to pay for it.
Post # 4
I had several people who cancelled on me last minute like this. I just let it go, because obviously she knows it is going to cost you. It’s so annoying. Hopefully she sends a gift.
I would say, “don’t worry about it.”
Post # 5
Well bad etiquette would be for me to say….”you owe me $300″
Post # 6
@nedaussie: well I think you know your friend best, if she’s offering to pay and wants to know the amount I would tell her. If she’s only saying this to make herself look like a better person, I’d probably just cut her out of my life and not respond.
Post # 7
I would not say a word. Bad etiquette.
Post # 8
I would say thank you for the offer but it’s not necessary, sorry you are unable to join us.
Post # 9
@nedaussie: “Don’t worry about it.”
I mean, there’s nothing else you can say.
Post # 10
I’d offer to help her find a babysitter.
Post # 11
I would not ask her to pay for those meals.
However, I would invite someone else whom you or your daughter would love to have been able to invite but who clearly would not ever have expected to have received an invitation and would understand why he or she is being extended this last-minute opportunity.
Post # 12
Things happen. I’d just let it go.
Post # 13
@nedaussie: I would say “Sorry you won’t be able to make it. You will be missed.” If I were her, I would actually feel horrible and really REALLY want to pay, so I would then respond with “No, really… how much is it per head?” If she doesn’t do that then she’s just being “nice”. Although, really, babysitting? If I have a wedding to go to and my sister needs a babysitter she finds someone else! Your friend shouldn’t have said yes to babysitting. So rude.
Post # 14
@HappySky7: +1. A wedding is not a ticketed event. Shit happens, it’s life.
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Ditto what Brielle said.
I had a couple of people in mind, just in case we had any last minute cancellations. Like, my mom’s best friend’s sister. Someone who wasn’t expecting an invite, and wouldn’t have minded a last minute one. Another example: let a teen guest bring a friend.
This “friend” sounds like a piece of work!
Post # 16
lol….it’s more about her etiquette than mine !!!!
What the frig is wrong with ringing on the phone….text is so impersonal.
Of course I won’t ask her for the money, but yes, if I did something like that I would make damn sure that I would send a gift that more than covers the meal…..but then I wouldn’t do it….
And I wouldn’t feel right saying, oh 2 people dropped out, you can come if you like (hmmm 3 days before the wedding…..nope, wouldn’t feel right doing that)