Post # 1
I really wish I was more outgoing, I don’t have a lot friends and wish I had the guts to put myself out there more. I love my friends dearly but one just had a baby and we only see each other about once a month now, which I am super greatfull considering she has so much going on in her life. My other friend is currently living in California so seeing her is out of the question. The third girl is just so busy in her life that we never get to see each other, the girl barely has time to text and my last close friend has a completely opposite schedule from me. I get to talk to some of them sometimes I just wish they were more accessable to hang out and talk about life. It just sucks, FI has been gone for almost week and will be gone for another 5 days and I realised that I have no one to hang out with at all this weekend. Why can’t I get over my shyness to put myself out there and make friends with someone who as the same point in their lives as me. I have some friends from classes and stuff but they all seem to have their group of close friends and I’m not the type of person to insert myslef into their ‘group.’ I just feel like I’m on the outside looking in. I guess I have weddingbee to come to but even here I feel like I’m just a spectator sometimes. I know it is because of me and I am working on it, it just sucks right now 🙁 Sorry if this is really hard to understand, I just needed to get this off my chest…
Post # 3
@alyssaC: how about taking on a new hobby? Like dance classe? Try this website below.
If you really want to change, you will. I’m sure your inner-social you is bursting to get out. 🙂
Post # 4
@alyssaC: I know that feeling. I haven’t made any actual friends since 10th grade. I’m almost finished with my 3rd year of college to put that in perspective. In fact, my best friend (whom I’ve recently reconnected with) is from 7th grade. If you were in VA, I’d be your friend 🙂 (did that sound creepy? o.O totally not supposed to sound creepy)
Post # 5
@Koi Fishie: I’m in the same boat, except my newest friend is from 9th grade, 3rd year of college too. HAHA not creepy at all, it would work if VA was a tinsy bit little closer lol
Post # 6
I am very similar…and I live in france away from my family. I think it would be better if we lived in a bigger city with more expats.
I second the meetup idea, I’ve used it…and I even made my own group! It was for people who wanted to practice French, and it was really great to have people come to me!
However, I also think that it’s okay to be a bit introverted, if that’s who you are, that is okay! I don’t have a lot of tips, just know you aren’t the only one. Perhaps you could do some volunteering too?
Post # 7
im very similar. I suck at making and keeping friends. I joined roller derby to make new friends, and it worked for me. It was awful the first few times going, because I’m also super shy. I just knew I had to put myself out there, other wise I was just going to stay at home and be alone. I miss having lots of friends like I did in high school. I moved away and it’s been so hard to make new friends
Post # 8
Me too! My older sister can make friends ANYWHERE. She just talks to everyone about anything and they talk back. I try to watch her sometimes, to see how she does it. It doesnt seem complicated… she’s just so damn friendly to EVERYONE and strikes up a conversation.
My FI and I have a really small circle of friends (like 3 close friends, and maybe 3 hang-out-only-at-a-birthday-party friends,) and we’re not super partying type of people… It’s so hard to make friends. Even in college… I’m 28, and a lot of students are in their early 20s. So there’s kind of an age gap. I feel old and disconnected : My FI has “work friends,” but they don’t hang out, outside of work.
I joke that it’s because I have permanent “bitch face.” I might look like I’m in a bad mood or something, but I’m really OK! I just don’t have a naturally smiley face. 🙁
Too bad we cant just all get together for one massive hang-out. We need a teleportation device!
Post # 9
Im glad I’m not the only one. I don’t have any friends which is hard to admit but it is what it is. It takes me a while to overcome feeling shy/ self conscious so I tend to avoid these situations. I’m so use to it now that it rarely bothers me.