I wish I could enter a wedding-free zone for the next month

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think on some level we all go thru this. Its OK. I totally understand, because I *love* planning parties, and know how overwhelming it can be.

I know this was just a rant, but can you tell your mom to go ahead and decide a few things for you? Can you put someone else in charge of a few things, with the preface that you want nothing to do with the details of those things? Sometimes I make a deal with FI, that there will be no wedding talk for x amount of days. He’s like you a bit, cares, but after 2 hours he’s done. Me? I could plan 12 hours a day.

Post # 4
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7208 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Moraz:  You say you feel like saying you don’t care. My advice: SAY IT!

Post # 6
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579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

No seriously, aussiemum is right. You don’t have to say you don’t care in a mean way, but you could talk to both of your moms. If it was me, I’d appeal to your moms “mommy” side. Explain how overwhelmed you are, and tell her you need her. If my DD said that to me, I’d help her in a heartbeat.

Post # 8
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721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Girl. I feel you right now. 

I was so happy that my mom was out of town all week visiting my sister because I didn’t have to have one wedding related conversation. 

 

Post # 9
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1272 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Moraz:  I am in EXACTLY the same position as you. My FI and I want to elope SO badly. We’d dealt with drama from the day we got engaged, and once my mom started getting excited about the planning aspect, I have felt like I might explode. It just seems like the wedding is all we ever talk about. And it’s almost a YEAR away.

I had to live at home this summer and we got into a lot of huge fights toward the end of the summer, because I was just so sick of hearing about everything. I finally told her that I wanted to put all wedding planning on hold because I didn’t like the direction things were going. She didn’t speak to me for a week and then broke down about how ungrateful and unsensitive I am. I haven’t spoken about wedding stuff (except right now) in a couple weeks….no pinterest binges either. Everything wedding-related makes me want to puke, and I feel panic attacks coming on whenever I look at a wedding checklist.

It’s so overwhelming, because I’ve realized that the whole big white wedding just isn’t what my FI and I have ever wanted. We made it so so so clear from the very beginning and somehow we were pressured to make all these decisions and deposits, and now I just wish everyone would leave me alone with wedding stuff!

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