- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
This is a lengthy one but I need to vent.
I get along great with my FI parents. I adore them but at times, just like with anyone, they piss me off. My FI and his parents went to a local Oktoberfest festival yesterday. A friend of mine also came w/her FI. It was while I was showing my friend where the wine area was located and came back to the table that I noticed something was wrong. I could just tell.
I asked my FI and he said he would rather we just wait until we get in the car for him to tell me. Even though I wanted to know then and there what happened. He told me that his mom brought a topic about the wedding up and wouldn’t drop it, etc.
A little history of my FMIL. She’s truly a sweet lady but she’s the type that when you tell her something, no matter how adament you are about the subject, she just doesn’t listen. It drives me nuts.
My parents are graciously paying for the majority of our wedding. My FI and I are paying for the rehearsal dinner, etc. His parents just don’t have the money, and while we don’t expect them to pay, it gets to the point of my story.
We have a small guest list with a maximum of 125. We’re really hoping for around 110 guests. I have a somewhat large family and my FI is quite close w/most of them. But we agreed that we were NOT inviting anyone who we didn’t know and weren’t relatively close with and NO children minus our nieces and nephews. We reiterated this to his parents on several occasions. Both of them persisted on inviting this person or that person. HELLO!? We don’t even know those people…so we politely told them no.
I come to find out that my FI’s mom AGAIN, brought up the topic of the guest list and she just doesn’t understand why on earth we wouldn’t invite his cousin’s children. I’ve never even met his cousin’s kids and only met the cousin ONE TIME. WHile I really like the cousin, sorry, the kids are STILL NOT INVITED.
So she was harping on this with my FI. And he kept telling her and telling her. Repeating himself. And finally to shut her up he told her that my parents were paying for the majority of the wedding and that was enough about the guests/children invited to the wedding.
I feel horrible saying this but deep down inside I just want to tell her that she’s lucky we’re allowing her to even make a guest list since my parents are footing the bill and it would be much different if the circumstances were different, but they’re not. I just want to tell her to shut up already, give us her A/B list and be quiet. We’ll decide who’s invited off of their list.
I know I sound terrible and like a complete b*tch but I hate it when she upsets my FI. It makes me want to tell her off. You upset my man, you upset me. But I can’t say anything to her…because he’d not appreciate it.
Anyone else going through anything like this? I’m so frustrated with this woman.