(Closed) I wish I didn't have to have attendants

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

It’s YOUR wedding – don’t have any!  Seriously, that’s totally what you should do if it’s creating this much hassle and stress.

Post # 4
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126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

We aren’t having any attendants 

Post # 7
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2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

yikes. Can your FI step in and politely talk to them? I’m so sorry you had to ask these people who don’t seem to care.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would urge you to talk to your FI about speaking with them.  Please don’t go into this marriage feeling like you have no say, and can’t talk with your FI about these things.  This may seam like a silly problem to be bringing up with him, but what happend when down the road it is a larger one (involving your kids, or where you spend holidays, ect).  You shouldn’t go into a marriage feeling bullyied by your in-laws.  

Now I will get off of my soap box.  I hope everything works out for the best.  hugs!  

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You aren’t “putting him in the middle”, YOU are in the middle. He can handle his own family. They need to pick dresses? He can call them and say to order the dress by this weekend. They don’t like your decisions? They are his decisions, too. You handle your own family, and he handles his own.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Why don’t you have your mother as your attendant?

FSIL doesn’t seem to want to be in your bridal party, so give her the out, and ask your Mom.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

@mrsrigsby60:  Actually, it IS all about you, and your FI.  If you don’t want to have attendants, don’t.  There’s no rule that says you have to, and if you would really feel less stressed about it you should listen to your gut instincts.

My cousin didn’t have any, and I only had one.  I’m also only having one this time around (2nd marriage) and that’s my daughter.  Hopefully you’ll only do this once more, so enjoy it. It is YOUR day!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I doubt that telling your FI that you need help with the wedding is going to be a dealbreaker. Maybe that was the wrong way to handle the situation for that person (ex). 

You are more than welcome to vent, but the community here naturally will want to help.

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