(Closed) I wish my FI would stop and think!

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
283 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I dont really have any good advice but i wanted to say I sympathise with you. My husband can get his priorities mixed up as well. We have a backyard that is half landscaped and needs to be paid for yet he is talking about wanting a new car and to fix his computer (He still has a working laptop and wont be getting a new car haha I let him dream) so I know how frustrating it can be. Hopefully he will come to his senses soon


Post # 4
7312 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Meh… I don’t think your Fiance has his priorities mixed up at all. Buying and installing solar panels is genius! They will pay for themselves over time, plus he’ll get a tax credit worth 30% of what he spends on the panels project. The tax benefits won’t be around much longer, so he should definitely take them while they last.

And if your parents want him to contribute more to the wedding, they should speak up. Unless your Fiance is psychic, he probably has no clue that they expect him to contribute more. He is operating on the fact that they agreed to pay for the wedding and has no reason to think that they have changed their minds.

Post # 5
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wish my Fiance would take the initiative and get some much needed things done around the house!  

Post # 6
1301 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Carolinejane:  Look on the bright side! At least he is discussing doing home improvements which add value to your property in the long run! Rather than spending it on expensive things just for himself like golf clubs, watches like my DH  etc etc. 

If your parents have resentments over them paying for the wedding without a contribution from your Fiance maybe you can discuss with your Fiance about him offering them an amount he is comfortable with? He would probably be upset that your parents are grumbling and would want to make it right/make a good impression on his future in laws!

Good luck for your wedding!


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