Post # 1
I swear every day he had another plan for ways to improve the house.
We moved in January and the house didnt really need anything doing to it. We just changed the decor slightly to our taste.
Last week we had our driveway done which wasnt cheap, Hes had builders out to quote to get the bathrooms re-tiled and now hes decided he wants solar panels – another massive expense.
This is fine and i know its his money so he can spend it as he wishes but we had a water leak in the kitchen and we need the floor replacing as a priority and i just feel he should hold off the home improvements until after the wedding at least.
my parents are putting a lot of money into the wedding and i feel guilty with them spending their money when my Fiance is flittering money away on things we dont really need just yet.
Im fine if he decides to do these things but i feel like everytime i mention our plans to my mum, she makes a comment, like he does realise you have a wedding coming up. I dont think he plans on putting to much towards the wedding except for the ushers attire and what have you. i think my parents would like it if he perhaps offered to help with the expense rather than on home improvements…
Post # 3
I dont really have any good advice but i wanted to say I sympathise with you. My husband can get his priorities mixed up as well. We have a backyard that is half landscaped and needs to be paid for yet he is talking about wanting a new car and to fix his computer (He still has a working laptop and wont be getting a new car haha I let him dream) so I know how frustrating it can be. Hopefully he will come to his senses soon
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Meh… I don’t think your Fiance has his priorities mixed up at all. Buying and installing solar panels is genius! They will pay for themselves over time, plus he’ll get a tax credit worth 30% of what he spends on the panels project. The tax benefits won’t be around much longer, so he should definitely take them while they last.
And if your parents want him to contribute more to the wedding, they should speak up. Unless your Fiance is psychic, he probably has no clue that they expect him to contribute more. He is operating on the fact that they agreed to pay for the wedding and has no reason to think that they have changed their minds.
Post # 5
I wish my Fiance would take the initiative and get some much needed things done around the house!
Post # 6
@Carolinejane: Look on the bright side! At least he is discussing doing home improvements which add value to your property in the long run! Rather than spending it on expensive things just for himself like golf clubs, watches like my DH etc etc.
If your parents have resentments over them paying for the wedding without a contribution from your Fiance maybe you can discuss with your Fiance about him offering them an amount he is comfortable with? He would probably be upset that your parents are grumbling and would want to make it right/make a good impression on his future in laws!
Good luck for your wedding!