@Mrs.D: Im sorry you are going through this! Some people just dont get it. I think the response you are giving is spot on (about the flip flops). I'm due in September, but I know I'll be in later stages of pregnancy during the summer. I haven't told my family yet (waiting til 12 wks) but my cousin beat me to it. She is also due in July like you! So my family has been saying similiar things to her at this point. You just have to wonder if sometimes people just don't really know what to say-so they say anything that comes to mind. Hope it gets better!
@Max04092010: Right! It's not like there's anything I can do about it now! Even my MIL said how bad it's going to be (my hubby and I were both born in August). Almost everyone I've told has said some version of "It's going to be so hot!" or I just get the "I'd hate to be you" look, I actually just got it from a woman in my office 30 minutes ago who asked when I'm due.
My mom was pregnant in Texas during the summer heat wave of 1980 (when a ton of the summer high records were set).
She still complains about it! 32 1/2years later, she still brings it up.
Don't have any advice for getting people to back off, just thought i'd throw that trivia into the ring. It could be that they know people who were pregnant that summer and remember just how awful it was.
Note to self: Do not say that. Sorry, I think I'm clever. I'm sure we all do.
@crayfish: I just don't get why they would want to tell me how awful it's going to be. I can't go back and pick a different due date. I'm also glad that I don't have to buy maternity sweaters and jackets, which are a lot more expensive than summer dresses and tank tops :)
Hey, did you know it gets hot in July in Texas???
OK just kidding. I will admit being hot and pregnant isn't much fun but hey... There is something called an air conditioner and another thing called a fan and I'm pretty sure they use them for cooling you off. (OK another smarty pants comment, I'm just feeling feisty today) If I were you I'd be a little smart with them lol... But when I was pregnant I was a smart a$$ to everyone. If someone had told me that I'd have said "Well thank you for letting me know, I was under the assumtion that July was a cold month"
Hang in there, it wont be nearly as bad as they say it will be. And hey, being pregnant is the perfect excuse for giving people attitudes when they say things like this :)
Three of my babies were born in summer. I loved it because I lost weight super quick. I took baby out a lot in the buggy for walks and went swimming and to the beach. People tend to be a lot happy in summer too. I love summer preganancies because you can wear nice cool flowing dresses and their is always aircon, or a swimming pool...:)
@kris325: True, it's not like I'm going to be living outside! Luckily we do have a/c in Texas, sometimes we need it :)
I dont live in texas or anything but i'm due in july too and i hear the same S*!T it gets really annoying! i usually make a comment about how that just means i can relax in the pool all day and no one can say a word. i was pregnant in the summer with my first and yep it sucks but i assume you already know that bc i would assume texas in the summer sucks pregnant or not.
@Mrs.D: Hey July mamma, come join us on the July thread!
@soon2bmrs.D: Yep. It pretty much sucks from min April to mid October... pregnant or not!
Yes!! So annoying!!
I live in southern Illinois and I get the same sort of comments. Not as hot as Texas but it gets unbearably humid! I have been responding with my excitement for lying in the pool and wearing flip flops too!!
I am not worried.. I have A/C for a reason. I don't typically parade around outside in 95-100 degree weather so why would I do it now?
I hear ya! I'm due at the end of July and get these comments all the time. And I live 40 min from Boston, so although it can get hot in the summer, it's not nearly as bad as other parts of the country! I just try to ignore it, even though it gets super annoying.
@Mrs.D: I was born in July in Texas! Its a great month since I was never in school on my birthday. The rest of the kids had to hope their birthday was on a weekend so they could sleep in on their birthday! Plus, we lived near the coast so my birthday always meant the beach. Nothing better than that!
It might also be fun to float in a swimming pool on those summer mornings while pregnant. The cool water always feels so nice while the sun is rising.
People care for you, excited to talk about your preggers and THEY haven't heard it 100 times, just get over it. It's a stupid thing to get angry about.
@Mrs.D: I totally hear you! I'm due in August in Vermont and I keep hearing the same comments, it's so annoying! I'm just looking forward to my flip flops and sun dresses : )
@FutureMrsMoore: who said I'm angry about it? I just said its annoying. They aren't telling me how miserable I'm going to be because they care about me, btw.
@sheepandbear: my birthday is in August so I only had school on my birthday twice, it is nice :). Unfortunately my job prevents me from enjoying the pool on summer mornings... :(
@Mrs.D: People did this about my due date in December when I was pregnant with my son. I was due Dec. 22 and everyone would say poor baby due at Christmas what a horrible birthday, blah, blah. It wasn't my family, but customers I worked with and saw everyday. It happened my whole pregnancy. I just shrugged it off. Or I would say I guess I shouldn't have tried that month and they would get embarrassed and drop it. :)
@Mrs.D: It's a dumb thing to be annoyed about. Get over it.
They are trying to sympathise with you.
@FutureMrsMoore: I don't think you understand what sympathizing is.
This is sympathizing:
(in the midst of conversation about pregnancy)
pregnant lady: "Yeah, I'm due in July and am totally not looking forward to dealing with the extra warmth that already comes with pregnancy in the scorching Texas heat."
sympathizer: "Oh bless your heart. I know it's going to be hot, but hang in there. [insert unsolicited advice or personal pregnancy experience here]"
This is annoying:
(out of nowhere)
person: "Oh my goodness @Mrs.D, when are you due?" *quite possibly the same people who've been asking on a weekly basis, for the past however many months you've been pregnant, when you're going to be due, and will no doubt keep asking when you're due until you're in the hospital delivering*
Mrs.D: "Due in July..."
person: "Oh man, it's going to be awfully hot out there. I don't envy you. [insert more unsolicited comments, advice, or personal pregnancy experience here]"
Mrs.D: *smiles politely as Southerners do* "I'm just glad when my feet are too swollen for shoes I can wear flip flops instead of winter boots!" *same answer for the 100th time*
... rinse, wash, and repeat this for nine months. The annoyance is totally justified.
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I live in Texas and I'd due in July. Yeah, I know it's going to be hot, just like it is every July in Texas... stop telling me how miserable it's going to be! I usually say, "I'm just glad when my feet are too swollen for shoes I can wear flip flops instead of winter boots!".