Post # 1
Wow, unrelated to what i am about to write here, I just typed out a LONG, detailed post and wedding bee deleted it. Awesome.
To try and sum up what just took me 10 minutes to type, I am sick of people asking/bugging me about my wedding. I got engaged in January, we told people it would probably be in May 2015. I understand that most of my friends/relatives will be traveling for the wedding, but I feel as though it is still over a year away. Since we got engaged, I started a very high stress job, my car died and I had to get a new one, and I’ve been training for a marathon. Not to mention, all the other life stuff that happens. I have people saying things to me like “well, we have to plan for this and this…we’re waiting on you.” How is this my problem? I feel as though the world expects me to think my wedding is *THE* most important event in my life, and that I should be prioritizing it. AND I have been looking up venues and we went to one, but the questions don’t stop. I’m just kind of sick of it.
Sorry this is not more specific and more whiney/ragey than necessary. I’m a little annoyed I lost the other post!
Post # 2
DrD711: Hang in there! At least once you determine location and date hopefully they will back off! Congrats on training for a martahon 🙂 htat’ll definitely help get you in shape to be a rockin beautiful bride! 🙂
Post # 3
DrD711: I have a 2 year engagement that I am on the last leg of… I’m starting to feel the same way now. Particularly with my parents. They think that all I do is plan my wedding but actually I am a person with a life and I have been in an internship as a therapist since July and they never ask about that, and that’s the most important thing to me in the world next to my FI, family, friends, and loved ones! I wonder how it might change when the wedding is over! 🙂
Post # 4
nawella: wow, I am a therapist too! I completely understand! People’s lives are in our hands, and to me, that’s more important than a wedding!!
thanks, both of you, for the supportive replies! Much appreciated.
Post # 5
I totally understand what you’re going through, we’ve been engaged almost a year and have 6 months to go and all anyone want to talk about is THE WEDDING, and I’m like omg enough! Most things are done and planned but why must every conversation I have be about my wedding, there are other things in life. So, yes just like you I am getting sick of talking about it and people are concerning themselves with things that they dont even need to worry about! They’re more worried about things than I am! I cant wait for the day but also cant wait till its over to get my life back!
Post # 6
That’s so cool you’re a therapist too!!!!
I do wonder if this phenomenon happens because it’s an easy thing to ask about- like I remember in high school for two years all my relatives asked me about was going to college and it got really annoying. I think some people are just trying to be interested. But it for sure gets annoying! It also makes it hard to keep things as surprises 🙂 Oh well!
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
DrD711: Hey girlfran! You can do this!! Tell them “May 2015, but don’t worry I’ve got it under control.” It doesn’t matter if you really do or not 😉 But, believe me, it doesn’t.ever.stop. Just get used to it and try not to stress about it. Unfortunately, when someone knows you’re engaged it seems like that’s an easy target for conversation. I mean, when strangers found out I just got engaged they even asked me! I didn’t have a date set forever either, and I’d just say “We’re working on it! Gotta find the venue first.”
Post # 8
DrD711: * Stands up and applauds!!!** Omg, you just spoke my exact thoughts! 2 YEARS before our wedding, FI’s aunt cornered me at Xmas and interrogated me on when and where they should book their hotel rooms. Um, I don’t know…you’re an adult, figure it out! Then she cornered me again this past Thanksgiving….like literally had me backed into a corner of the kitchen. She wanted to know where they should book their hotel rooms again! Jesus woman! Just book a room! I’ve listed like 5 hotels near our venue on the website…and I know she’s seen our website lol.
Then everytime we’re at his family’s gatherings, someone asks me how the wedding planning is going. Just being polite I guess, but I’m expected to say “Great! it’s soooo much fun!” when all I really wanna say is “It’s highly stressful…I think of running away with FI all the time…I want to strangle my bridesmaids every day….I can’t believe I’m shoving out all this money for all this crap that doesn’t really matter” Of course, as soon as I say something like that (cuz I believe in being honest about my feelings), I get a courtesy laugh and then they turn away to talk to someone with happier thoughts LOL.
Ugh, I love our family and friends….I really do lol
Post # 9
I know EXACTLY what you are saying. I wish everyone would just SHUT UP. You will find out about our wedding when you get the damn invitation. You don’t need to know all of the details 7 months in advance because you “need to book a hotel.” We aren’t getting married in another country. I’m tired of people asking me a million questions about every detail. And if one more person tells me what I *NEED* to do, I’m going to snap. I don’t care what the Wedding Rule Book said 30 years ago…I don’t have to do it.
Post # 10
MouthOfTheSouth: I so agree about the “need” thing!! And I can’t wait for all the backlash when all these people find out I’m not getting married in a church! LOL.
Guys, thanks SO much for all your supportive comments and validatation! It helps to know I’m not alone in this. I just can’t relate to the people who throw themselves into this 100% and their lives become the wedding. it’s ONE day!!!