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Has anyone had a bad reaction from others about your ring?
I personally love my ring but I find myself annoyed at people's reaction.
I have had several people tell me "Oh how cute" and my own mother says things like "you must upgrade" . I know when it comes down to it, who cares what other people think.. but its a little disapointing to have so many negative comments
Honestly is it considered bad if you center stone is less than 1 carat?
My center stone is .55 carats and the diamonds on the side and in the middle on the wedding band/engagement ring total 1 carat.
i think there so many ring designs out there these days its a bit overwhelming when you see someones particular ring.
a woman i know has a 3ct sized stone... notice i didnt say 3carot ring... its a fake stone but she wanted something that posh spice would wear but theres now way her hubby could afford it
do you love your ring? thats all that counts. yes, one day you may choose to decide to upgrade but thats your choice and ignore the others
edit: when i got my ering my FMIL said "its so big" where my mum said "oh thats nice" so cant please everyone.
Mine is less than a carrot by a bit. .85. I think it also kind of depends where you come from. To my family, that seemed like a big diamond and my small fingers help make it look larger than it is. There is no "bad" in rings anyway! Some people don't have any stones at all, some dont have diamonds, some don't have a "center stone." If you love it that's what is most important! If it really bothers you, then think about upgrading it later but I know personally my ring is so sentimental that I wouldn't want to change it!
I guess I'm kind of on the other end of this, my stone is pretty big and boy do I hear it all the time--so I know how you feel. You just want people to say that it's pretty, or nice! You really can't please everyone, so just remind yourself: your fiance picked it out. It's probably gorgeous and it's a reflection of your love... and 1 carat isn't anything to sneeze at, either. Good luck to you!
That is so obnoxious of people to say and you know what's funny? I've heard the same thing! I think it's all relative to the environment the people are in but it's pretty rude...People get wierd about diamonds tho...
Mine is 3/4 of a carat, but I have small fingers so it looks a bit larger. Small fingers and all there's no mistaking it for something over 1 carat. Between the small diamonds that wrap around it and the wedding band there are 1.25 or so overall. I think it's far more embarassing to have credit card debt than a smaller ring. No one has said anything negative to me.
Even though I'd love an upgrade, I also want the sentimental value of the ring we bought together when we were young and in love. So, so far, I'm not planning on it.
Well, no. If people don't think you have enough bling (or on the flip side comment on you having too much bling) then they are pretty shallow and materialistic in my mind. It drives me so flippin' crazy that people assign extra meaning to the size of the rock. Its SOOOOOOO petty in my mind. Like they don't have enough confidence in themselves or have high self worth and get off by picking on others.
If it isn't "cute", it's "gaudy". You simply can't expect everyone to have the right manners to say the right thing unfortunately
Consider it a flaw in their upbringing. Or, call them out on it! =]
that's the exact same size of my ring and I haven't had any "cute" comments. A lot of people are kind of mean to me when they see my ring and don't say much at all. I think they are mad that FI probably spent so much money on such an extravagant ring. My ring is bigger than any of the other rings his family members have so I think they get jealous or think poorly of me. It's not like I was trying to one-up them or something! I just wanted a three stone ring and I wanted a nice setting. The setting was more important to me than the diamonds themselves. So I think people get upset when they see my fancy setting next to their plain bands.
I don't know! People are weird when it comes to rings. Just ignore it. I don't really care what they think as long as I like my ring, which I do!
Just try to ignore it the best you can! My ring is just a simple tanzanite, no diamond accents or anything, and I love it. I finished describing it to some friends before I got it back from being re-sized, and one friend immediately asked how many carats it was. I think I just said, um, I don't know... (seriously clueless about jewelry), and my other friend kindly cut in and said that it sounded perfect and just like me. Which it is. :)
Someone will always have something to say that will bring you down... I've had about 3 people ask "Is it real?" when they saw mine. I wanna be like, "Come closer so I can leave my diamond imprint on your face!"
Also society has given everyone a skewed sense of what is an "acceptable" size. There's nothing wrong with the size of your diamonds! As long as you're happy with it, who cares!!
My mom's ring is 1/3 of a carat center stone and she loves it. She suggested I consider nothing much bigger than 1/2 carat but I really wanted at least a carat because I have very long fingers. At the same time my FSIL wanted me to get a ring that was like hers a band with a 1/10 diamond fleck in it. My friends stuck with 1/2 carat solitares but I know a group of girls who say it isn't worth getting engaged for less than a 2 carat stone.
Get the ring you want and love it. Each ring is perfect for the girl who wears it - forget everyone else.
Ha! I remember getting a "your ring is very cute" email from someone. Now when I see her (very, very large) baby, I am always so tempted to say "wow, your baby is ... really big." 
If you love your ring, then it is the perfect size. The size shouldn't matter. What matters is that you have a fiance that wants to marry you.
Honestly, I'd be tempted to tell all of the debbie downers to bug off. But that wouldn't be nice of me. Just smile and change the topic.
I am on the opposite end of this problem too. And yes, it can be a problem. I get comments daily... often from complete strangers. In elevators. At the grocery store. Everywhere. For me, it is as if people's focus is always the ring - women swoon over it... but I cringe because I want the focus to be on my extraordinary relationship and not always the extraordinary ring. Don't get me wrong, I really love my ring. But it's awkward to have people feel the right to always comment on it. Co-workers would stop by my desk to "visit The Ring" and bring people by to see it. It has spectators and its own fan club. I should charge tickets. One grumpy man shopping in a store told me "I hope you don't go off into the big city with that ice skating rink on your finger... someone will hurt you for that thing" Yikes. So, point is... love your ring. Love your relationship. It's symbolic of your love, and don't worry about what other people think. Your ring will be with you hopefully for the rest of your life. (in a perfect world). I get sad when I hear people don't like their ring. Size doesn't matter. I would have married him if he gave me a candy ring. It's the love that you have that matters.
Some people will just never have anything nice to say, no matter what size your ring is. Mine is just under a carot and I love it and don't want anything bigger but I still got comments from a relative that it should be bigger.
Is cute just a word that they use when they can't think of anything else to say? I think there have been other threads about negative comments toward rings ... we've all gotten them, it seems like.
Mine's less than a carat, and I love it. I have no plans to upgrade. People are stupid. As others said, if you love your ring, eff everyone else. My mother and many other wise women in my life have told me that if they could do it again, they'd forgo a center stone all together and choose a band (either plan or eternity-type). Their reasoning? "It gets in the way when you're trying to live your life."
I have a solitare that's 3/4 of a carat. I think my ring is a great size and I've honestly never thought about it being too small.
I have a sapphire ring so most people ask "is it official?" and I get really annoyed. I say you stick with your guns and let people know that you are proud of what your FI bought you and that you wouldn't have it any other way. .55 is not too small (I've seen smaller) and if you think its beautiful, it is.
Congrats on the engagement and wave your left hand around proudly!
My ring sounds very similar to yours. The center stone is .77 and the side stones in the band total .30 for a total of 1.07 carats. I love my ring... its exactly what I wanted and I have no intentions to ever upgrade. However, many people said it was "cute" or dainty when they first saw it. Just remember, its your ring and you'll be the one wearing it for the rest of your life (hopefully!). Ignore what others say. As long as your happy thats all that matters!
Mine's very similar to what yours sounds like... 1/2 carat middle stone with diamonds on the band.... My wedding band is a wrap with diamonds as well. I have little fingers and couldn't imagine having anything bigger then 1 carat in the middle! it would just look odd on me I think. I LOVE my ring... :-)
My ring IS cute and sparkly so I don't mind when anyone says it. It was my grandmothers earring and I turned it into my engagement ring-with little tiny diamonds all around the band. I love it more than any of the big rocks my friends have. My ring has history and personality!
People say the darndest thing! Ignore their comments though. As long as you luv your ring that's all that matters. I'm sure your FI picked what he thought fits you best!
I bet your ring is beautiful. And if what others offend you, honestly, I'd let them know it. There's no reason for people to be rude and my opinion is that they should be called out on it.
I will admit it gets overwhelming when several people around you are getting engaged ... you can only ooo and aahh so much. Ya know? And sometimes, a ring style isn't what a particular person would like. I know even amongst my closest friends our ring styles differ GREATLY. So maybe they maybe these people just aren't fans of it because they don't like the style? Still, it's no reason for them to be rude.
I think ejs4y8 is right! People say inappropriate things no matter what size your ring is! I'd just try to ignore it--if you're happy, that's all that matters!
Bottom Line: People suck!
I think that many people make underhanded/passive-aggressive comments because of their own insecurities and shallow tendencies. Don't listen to them....and remember: your Engagemnet ring is not a status symbol - it is a symbol of your future husband's commitment to you for life. That makes it special no matter what it looks like :)
Which would you prefer? A .55ct diamond ring or a 24ct ring? I'd prefer a "cute" ring to a "gaudy" one!!
Example:
Compared to Paris, we all have "cute" rings! lol It's all in how you look at it :)
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Ridiculous. People get so uppity about something that is mainly symbolism. Sigh. My ring is less than a carat and I love my ring. No upgrade plans. I say call them out on their inapproriate comments. People are so obnoxious.
Pshaw. If you love your ring, then that is all that matters! Exact size specifications mean nothing! The ring is a symbol of the love that you and your fiance have for one another, and that is something that is bigger than any ring will ever be.
The one I get most often is, "Oh, how unique!" Well, yes. that would be the point now, wouldn't it?
We fell in love with the gorgeous emerald and then later found a perfect setting for it. though the shape has made finding wedding bands a long and painful process, I wouldn't change my beautiful ring for anything!
OMG that ring on Paris' finger is just GAUDY. That is something that doesn't look normal, typical or even real.
Morgan I'm sorry that people don't have manners. I think sometimes people are just effected by what they see on A-listers fingers and think that anything less is "small". My ring is also less than a carat and I love it. Why do I love it? It's the stone my FI picked out himself. It's also the first diamond he looked at and kept going back to. At one point, while looking at the stone when he was in the "diamond room" at the jeweler's, he actually dropped the stone from the little holder and he froze! Of course they found the stone on the floor but he said he'll never forget thinking, "OMG I dropped it! Don't move! I dropped it!" My FI put the entire thing together with our birthstones (aquamarine & sapphires) included as side stones---the only other diamonds on my ring are the peek-a-boos on the opposite sides of the band by the center stone that came from his grandmother's engagement ring set.....and that's just how I would have picked out! A lot of people will say, "Oh, you'll upgrade after 5-10 years," because a lot of women do that. I personally want the ring the same way it was given to me when I'm celebrating my 30th, 40th and 50th wedding anniversaries. That's my opinion though but I'm sorry people tell you that you should upgrade. Hell, my sister had a beautiful ring that looked all antiquish but the diamonds were very small so people gave her a hard time. I loved the look though and told her all the time I loved it; however, when I got my ring she said nothing but, "Whoa," and looked away and sulked the rest of the day. My own sister wasn't even happy for me that my fiance put some sentimental things into my ring that I had hoped to have.
When people say those things, just smile, say you LOVE your ring. Don't let them know you are hurt by their words because I'm guessing they are also people who are not kind half the time anyway.
If you love your ring, that's what matters. Heck, you could even stand up for it and just tell them how much you love it just the way it is. Its definitely rude of them to imply that your ring is not good enough.
I bet if you post your ring you will not get an "Oh, that's cute," response from any of us! Will you show us your ring?
I've said someone's ring was cute but I didn't mean it negatively. Normally I say it's stunning or amazing, but this one was absolutely cute! It was pink gold and a really unique and adorable ring. I hope she wasn't offended... I have never seen a ring I didn't admire! lol
I'm also on the other side of this and I feel incredably uncomfortable when people comment on how big it is. I know they mean it as a compliment - but it's out of line and I never know how to respond. LIke "Thanks, I really deserve it?" Nothing sounds right. Then I get SUPER tacky people who ask me what size it is. I DONT EVEN KNOW!!! I didn't ask my FH because I think that's a rude question, but it's okay for you to ask me??
Sorry for the vent! I just don't think it's appropriate for people to talk about the size. "It's beautiful" is the ONLY acceptable response to an engagement ring.
Size is not important. The heart and promise is what is important.
If the person/persons will NOT stop calling your ring cute, then whenever she asks your opinion about her dress or her purse or shes, respond with "Oh it's SOOOOOO CUTE!" Let's see how they like that!
diamond chip or non diamond at all or hope diamond matters not! It's the love BEHIND the committment that is what's gold!
completely agree with bellenga as usual (well except about damask, i will convert her dang it!)... when i told people that i wanted an aquamarine or topaz ring the statement was oh you can definitely upgrade to a diamond later (not so much)....
I love damask darn it! But not all over damask! Try to convert me and I will gladly (if I really like it) rescind my assertation about damask! Lol!
An aqua or a topaz? Geez. They're GORGEOUS! I'd say to them "well next time you can upgrade that purse ya know it?"
The nerve of some wacky wascals~
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