Post # 1
Seriously, I think I work with the most immature group of women on the face of the planet.
This July will mark 1 year working here, I love my job, my manager, the owners, and everyone that works here with the exception of one of the two “girls” I share an office with.
Her and one other girl are very close and have gotten into the habit of poking me, yea you heard me right, poking, something a 5 year old would do. So I guess they think its hilarious because its uncomfortable for me to be poked and have my love handles grabbed. I tell them please don’t do that everytime they do it, but I guess I am not using the right tone so they just laugh it off.
Today, I really raised my voice and they still didn’t get it. I was bending over to get a file and girl A grabbed my love handle and I sat up real fast and I turned a looked at them and I said this needs to stop. Today. Its not funny, its not cute, I don’t like it. Seriously. And they continued to laugh, I said, I am not laughing, don’t do it anymore. And then girl B who I share an office with said “that’s just gonna make us do it more” and continued to laugh and I said sarcastically, “I am so glad you can laugh at my expense”. I am just here to vent and bash them because I don’t know where else to vent this b.s too. I mean how stupid would I sound if I went to my manager and said “ A and B are poking me” Seriously? Then girl C who I also share an office with turns to me and says “are you sure you are ready to have kids?” and I said what makes you ask that? (I knew why she said that, if I can’t handle a little tease, how can I possibly handle kids!!) How is she seriously comparing poking behavior of a 33 and 26 year old to a baby/toddler/child…WTF?!
Post # 2
Do you have an HR Department? Go there. Now.
They are seriously overstepping boundaries by touching you in any way. That is just not ok at all. It’s harassment, especially when you’ve asked them to stop, repetedly.
What crummy co-workers!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
Daizy914: I would report them to your manager though – they’re invading your personal space and making you uncomfortable. You’ve tried to handle it yourself and they haven’t listened, it’s time for your manager to give them a scare.
Post # 4
Pretty much what PP post says. That’s harassment. Go to HR Department, directly there, You gave them fair warnings you told them not to and they laughed. Its unacceptable to be touched that way in a professional office setting.
Post # 5
Wow I would have BLOWN UP. People suck. As PP’s have said, it needs to be reported. And you’ve done all you can do, you’ve asked them to stop and it obviously hasn’t helped. Time for it to be out of your hands. Honestly if something like that happened in my office, they would be fired in a heartbeat.
Post # 6
Yep, they are putting their hands on your body without your consent. That is absolutely NOT ok. Ever. Especially from a grown-ass adult.
Post # 7
Just…wow. These women have obvious boundary issues. I would absolutely go to the boss (be respectful!) and say that the coworkers have formed an inappropriate habit of grabbing your midsection. Then say it’s very uncomfortable, and they refuse to stop, even after multiple requests. Say that if a man were grabbing you in this manner, it would be considered sexual harassment. Say you don’t want trouble, but this must stop NOW. This is an HR issue, and the coworkers need to be called out.
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Sounds like assault and battery to me.
Post # 9
urchin: chronicwhimsy: Theonetime: thehappiestbridetobe: DaneLady: af123: we don’t have an HR dept. we have someone that calls themselves an HR director but she is the one who asked me if I was ready to have kids, and she is not innocent, she has also made me feel uncomfortable in ways that cannot be discussed here because its too political and because this is the internet, things will be misunderstood.
If this should continue, I will be forced to go to my manager and let her know what is going on, I refuse to feel bullied and be the laughing stock of the office. Its not right.
Post # 10
Daizy914: In that case, I would go to the manager now. It’s appalling that your designated HR officer acts that way.
Post # 11
It sounds like you work for a small company. Normally, I’d say go straight to HR, but since that’s not an option, go to your manager. If your manager blows you off, go to the owners. It’s never ok to be groped and grabbed at work, even in a non sexual way.
Post # 12
Go to the manager now. Like, right now. This second. If that doesn’t work, go higher. And higher. If you get to the top and no one still does anything, I’m pretty sure you can take legal action or alert the police. This is 100% harassment and completely inappropriate.
If this happened where I work, they would be put on unpaid leave, and possibly fired.
Post # 13
- Wedding: December 2014 - Norton Country Club
Rant & vent away! This is totally unacceptable in any work place… unless you’re the Pillsbury Doughboy and from what I can see, you’re anything but that! (Just trying to make you smile in a crappy situation, hope that comes across that way!)
Since it sounds like you’re not going to make any progress with the “HR Director” but you’re not sure if you want to take it to the manager, I wanted to offer another option. Now that things are not in the “heat of the moment”, I’d take approach them in a serious tone now. Obviously, they all laughed it off before (rude.). When things are calm and there is no violation of your personal space, I’d approach them as individuals and state something like, “I know that when you poke or grab me, you are joking around. However, it makes me very uncomfortable and it needs to stop. Please respect my personal space and do not do this again.” And I’d document it… whether you write an email draft to yourself or a word document to save on your desktop, but make sure you put the date and time you spoke to each of them. If it continues, take it to the manager and explain that you’ve asked them to stop (maybe bring that document you saved) and that she needs to step in now. Best of luck! Please let us know how it turns out.
Post # 14
That sounds completely unacceptable. Those women are acting incredibly immature, and I can’t believe they think it’s OK to do that to you. They sound like nasty high school bitches! Apparently they haven’t quite grown up yet. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with that. I’d definitely tell your manager.
Post # 15
Just a minor update, I have not gone to my manger yet, I am still trying to think about what to say in a way that won’t make me sound like I am whining. One of the two girls that I spoke up to, are not speaking to me and its beyond immature because I have a job to do that requires communication with this person. Seriously, people need to grow up.