'I would have done things differently…'

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think my biggest one would be breaking up with my ex as soon as I met my now FI. I loved that he and I had 2.5 years to get to know one another as friends, and be best friends, but we could have been spared from so much pain had I just taken a chance.

Post # 4
4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would have never moved back to the northeast after college. I loved my college town and its where we’d like to eventually end up, but we have really good jobs and just bought a house, so I can’t see having the opportunity (anytime soon at least) to move back down there. I miss it so much and just don’t love living in this area.


Post # 5
65 posts
Worker bee

hmmmm tough one for me, obviously i have made mistakes in life, and there are definatly things i wish i had done differently, but i think its made me who i am today, and brought me where i am also- if i had done things differently i might not have my lovely house, partner and puppy or the friends i have now… so i guess no because everything would be different for me.



Post # 6
975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

No, I really wouldn’t.  For all the dumb choices or heartache… it’s made me who I am.  Easy to say in hindsight.  But I never did anything that really caused me serious issues like getting into drugs or getting arrested/sent to jail.  Even then I know people did these things, who said if X didn’t happen or they didn’t do Y, Z couldn’t have happened because they wouldn’t have been in the right place, learned the right things, etc.

I’m not religious or believe things “happen for a reason” (just personal belief, I have no issue with what anyone else believes).  But being me now, I can’t say I would want to be someone else.  Which is pretty much what happens if you take your choices/experiences and change them into something else.  You would be someone else.  You’d still be Your Name… but you’d be different.

And if you did things differently at a previous point, you may not have that knowlegde and experience you have now.  You could have a whole different set of problems.  So while I think it’s fine to wonder what if I’d done “whatever”… you can’t predict how it would have turned out or where you’d be now for sure.  Say you didn’t go to college and regret it, but what if the college you went to was one with a shooting and you died?  Or you had kids early and had a hysterectomy after several, what if you waited and developed cancer and had to have the hysterectomy and never had kids.  To me it’s too many what ifs, at 37 there’s a LOT of choices I could have done differently, but those choices and experience (good and bad) made me who I am.

It’s what I do going forward that really matters.  That’s my 2cents on the internet :).

Post # 7
243 posts
Helper bee

I would have graduated faster..Ive already gone through 3 programs, Im on my fourth now which I love, kbut I wish I would have done it sooner rather than waste time

Post # 8
919 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@kfiorita:  I don’t know because like you said, I am where I am now because of everything that happened in my life.

If I could go back, I would have tried to maintain a great relationship with my dad. My mom was bitter over their divorce and his new wife and I did not attend their wedding, which I really regret.

I also regret two things about my wedding: not inviting more family, but at the same time I wish the two of us would have just eloped.

I regret some of the things I’ve put my husband through. I wish I would have gotten help earlier to better myself, but I am a lot better now.

I never would have agreed to live with my MIL when she asked us to move in with her. It was a really stressful time.

Sometimes I think I should have majored in something else in college or looked into a technical trade.

Basically, I have a lot of regrets lol.

Post # 9
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I would have chosen a different major.

Post # 10
4135 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would have never gone into health care. I would have not wasted time with “fixer upper” guys. 

Post # 11
920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

There’s not really anything I would change.  The only thing I can think of is I would have cut my parents off from my life sooner.  Everything else was either needed or worth it.

Post # 13
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I would have also picked a different major.

Post # 15
5087 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I wouldn’t picked a different degree.  I would have kept up my physiotherapy as a child. I wouldn’t of had my first wedding. Meeting my ex husband is the biggest regret of my life. 

Post # 16
2064 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

huh…….We would not have boat our commercial boat the rusty. It ended up being a  bigger project than we thought. like 60,000 + more than we thought. but oh well. also i honestly think i would have maybe had a cheap wedding all together and bought that designer dress used some how and made it work lol. I had my wedding at the church i used to go to camp at. I loved it and it was great but a part of me wished i just did it in this town, was cheap and had my total dream dress. but then again what if that happened and i would have done it this way. some times the grass isnt always greener


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