I Wouldn't Get A Tattoo And He Takes Offense… ???

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I have the same policy. If your name or something in your honor goes on me, I’d better have birthed or adopted you. It’s not a lack of faith in dbf or our relationship, but even when we’re married my opinion won’t change

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@mrs_pudding_pop:  I think he’s overreacting.  I think it’d be cool if my husband got a tattoo of our pets’ names or something, but he’d have to be an idiot to get my name permanently inked on his body.  

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think he’s overreacting, sorry but it’s wise to be realistic and not live in a fantasy world. I hate tattoos in general, but even if I loved them there’s no way I’d get a tattoo resembling a relationship on me. You simply never know what can happen.

ETA – no one gets married thinking they’ll get divorced, but the divorce rate is still 50%….

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I’d have no problem doing it, such as around my ring finger. Not sure if I ever will though.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

FH and I have agreed that we would never get each other’s names tattooed on our bodies, unless something bad has happened…touch wood! I wouldn’t even get pets’ names tattooed on me. Maybe just my kids and an influential relative.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Um, I think he’s being pretty ridiculous. Tattooing your SO’s name is risky business!

Of course, this is coming from a girl who would never in a million years get a tattoo- I don’t even have my ears pierced (though sometimes I think about doing it). Permanent body modification scares me.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is one of those “Agree to disagree items”. I happen to agree with you, but I can still see his point of view. As long as you both accept the others viewpoint I dont think you can convince the other person to side with you. 

Itll pass over quickly.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

If he is basing your quality of love for him on getting a tattoo of his name, he needs to start thinking about this more logically.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

He’s majorly overeacting IMO. Then again, I get bent out of shape over stupid things too sometimes.. we all do probably.

Maybe it’s the way you said it? I don’t know. It’s a cliche now that getting a name tattoo leads to breakups. EVERYONE seems to say it. I don’t get why he’d be offended. Maybe it’s his time of the month? 😛

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2015

i agree with you on this, but me and SO both have the same thought and agreed a long time ago we will NEVER tattoo each others names, have seen that turn out badly too many times lol we do however both have tattoos! he has way more than me though, i got one done on each foot for our 2 kids, he also has their names on his arms. but we’d still never risk each other’s names. I hope he comes around and understands, he should!

its not that either of us think we wont be together forever but inking something like that is to me almost like sealing your fate of things going bad? i dont know why i think that but i do 🙂 or its just a major pain and expense to try and remove it :/

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper

Well, I don’t understand his feelings.  I think it’s  immature and controlling for him to want you to be branded as his in some misguided representation  of love and loyalty.  Not that it should be  relevant, but do you have other tattoos?   

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

A tattoo to show your faithfulness is about the same as a Facebook post that shows your devotion …or a ring  that shows devotion by wearing it on your left hand.  We all know a ring doesn’t make someone committed, a FB post doesn’t make ones relationship more legitimate and a tattoo doesn’t make you more committed,  faithful or 100% in it,  either.  It is just another way [of many], that people can choose to express their devotion.  Not having one and choosing NOT to have one doesn’t make your relationship unstable or less valid.

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