Post # 1
Hello Bess! I have just gotten engaged ( so excited) anyways I have been friends with my best friend for 15 or so years, we are really close but due to busy sechdules we have not seen eachother for a few years until recently.We now see each other on a weekly basis cause we work at the same place. Any way last year I had asked her to be my maid of honor cause me and my bf were talking about getting married last year but due to finacial issues it had to be postponed til this year. Anywho I told her I was engaged and she states that we have to start planning and is really happy for me but here is the kicker I have a sister ( she has always been hard to get along with and very demanding but in the last short years she has changed) and considering this my mom really wants her to be my maid of honor and i do too but did not for awhile considering how she was. Im just not sure what to say to my friend who i had already ask and I really do not want to upset my friend and sister . Please help, advice needed :/
Post # 2
Would your friend be willing to share the title? I’ve seen a few brides who have two maids of honor. That way no one is upset or hurt.
Post # 3
- Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA
It’s your choice, not your mom’s. Do what makes you happy! You can always have 2 MOHs. If you decide to choose your sister, I’m sure your friend will understand. Who do you think would do a better job and is more organized? Who can you depend on?
Post # 4
LoveBlossom14: It’s your choice. I have two MOHs and so far, it’s working out fine. I think because you already asked your friend, it would be really awful to revoke the title. At the same time, I can’t imagine her being upset if you had her and your sister as co-MOHs. When one of my BFFs was disappointed that I didn’t make her a Maid/Matron of Honor and that I would clearly be hers, I was sort of shocked that she wouldn’t have chosen her sister for the role.
Post # 5
If you are happy with both of them filling the position do that. Thats how I did. My best friend is like a sister to me and has been since we were kids. I have an older sister that I also wanted to fill the position. They shared the role and it worked out great. I am so happy I chose to do it that way.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2014 - The Meeting House/DoubleTree by Hilton
I agree with PPs – I’d have them share the title so you don’t have to risk hurt feelings or make a tough choice. I didn’t want to pick between my two sisters, so they are splitting the Maid/Matron of Honor position and it is working out fine so far.
Post # 7
Are either of these ladies married already? If so you could always do a Maid and Matron of Honor. I did that in my first wedding so both of my sisters could be MOH’s, worked out perfectly fine.
Post # 8
LoveBlossom14: I have a maid of honor and a man of honor. There was absolutely no way I could choose one of the other, so it is what it is!
Post # 9
Your mom shouldn’t be dictating who is in your wedding and has what role. It’s your wedding, not hers.<br /><br />At the end of the day, it’s acceptable to have two maids of honor.
Post # 10
I had three girls: a Matron of Honor and two Maids of Honor. The two Maids were my bff and my sister. It worked out because my sister was finishing up her last year at college out of state and could not really help out or be too involved like my bff was. But I still wanted her to have the title. No one’s feelings were hurt.
Post # 11
LoveBlossom14: have them both be a maid of honor, there is no rule that you can only have one.