Post # 1
My wedding coordinator says she’s never seen this done at a wedding before and that it’d be "different", but I’m kind of considering doing some sort of icebreaker during our reception. Our families have never met before and I thought it might be a fun way to get everyone introduced and interacting with one another. WC thinks that it might be best to do something like this during the rehearsal dinner. What do you think?
Post # 3
I think this might be fun for your guests at the wedding. Not everyone will be at the rehersal dinner. If it’s not a really large wedding, then you’ll want people to mingle/talk
Post # 4
I would enjoy doing something like this at the reception — maybe during cocktail hour, etc. OR if you wanted to put a twist on the usual "tinkling" people do to get the bride and groom to kiss, you could have trivia about the families/couple. =)
Post # 5
I think the reason why the WC said to do it during the Rehearsal Dinner, is because she’s trying to accommodate you (not tick off her client), but try to deflect something she thinks is not a good idea. To be honest, I would have to agree.
First, it comes off a little "corporate team builder" to me. I can smell the sharpies now. And unlike corporate team building, I’m not paid to be there. And I wouldn’t like to be forced into doing something. I know that when I go to a reception, I have my hands full catching up with my own family and friends. I’m really not that interested in the "other side" of the room. No offense. If someone is that extroverted, that they want to meet all kinds of new people, I think they will find a way to do that. Also, I think it might take up more time, and end up more chaotic than you plan. However, you didn’t mention how large your reception is. If it’s really small, I could see maybe doing this.
But if your families have never met, I could see doing this at the Rehearsal Dinner. It is probably a good idea to make sure your parents and immediate families get to know each other. There’s reason to believe they’d cross paths again, in the future.
Post # 6
I think it would probably be better at the Rehearsal Dinner. If your families have never met, you might want to do it the first chance you get at the Rehearsal Dinner. If you or your fiance have any shy family members, they might feel really uncomfortable and maybe even hold a grudge if they are forced into an ice breaker. I think its a great idea for family members in a small setting but if you are having a large reception, it might get out of control or no one will participate. Just some thoughts. If you have pictures or something that would be mutual for both sides of the family to mingle over or around, it would be an option but not be forced. You dont want to call out guests in front of large groups of people they are just meeting and adjusting to.
Post # 7
I have to second Tanya123. I know your intention is good, but I would not be pleased to go to a wedding and find I had to do icebreaker games. I actually feel uncomfortable just thinking about those things! If you really want to and think your family would like it, the Rehearsal Dinner is the place, not the reception IMO.