Weddingbee boards

I agree with you and everyone- that is totally rude and these people have no manners. You know what though, I got married at a courthouse too, and I predicted sh!t was gonna hit the fan when I changed my relationship status.. so the days before we got married I made sure to post things like "We are getting marriesd at the courthouse in X days!" and "So close to being a Mrs. at the courthouse!" to drop hints to everyone that it was happning and not to get all huffy about it. I posted pictures from the courthouse that clearly showed it was just us two there. We are also having a small, intimate ceremony of 50 people that I never mention on Facebook lest people start asking "Where's my invite?" and blah, blah, blah. I am not planning on putting up pro pictures from it, that way people don't feel left out when they look at them or whatever. The people that mean the most to me will already be there anyway! Basically, preventative tactics.

But really, how rude of your random buddies to expect an invite! Congrats on your marriage btw!

oh my god this makes me so angry for you. I hope you snapped back with "are you trying to make me feel guilty because its not working!"... ok maybe not that exactly.

i recently got a direct facebook message from someone in my past who has been making comments on my wall about the wedding, this time she came out and asked blatantly if she was invited. All her comments before were tied to her thoughts that she was and it always annoyed me. Perhaps I'm terrible but i got satisfaction with telling her she wasn't. I just hate when people assume they are invited!

Eww how incredibly tacky!

Isn't it strange how a wedding can bring the most random people out of the woodwork and think that they are invited to such a personal day?

I agree with realeastacoaster--some times these comments come directly from those who have never planned a wedding!  Me and my FI are planning our June 2011 wedding and before we realized how much it would cost, we were planning on inviting a lot more people! Now we had to bring the guest list down to 100, and thats only our closest family + friends.  My FI and I decided that we would not invite co-workers, and that looks to be a problem already.  I had a co-worker flat out ask me if she was invited.  Mind you, I've never spent a second outside of work with her, no birthdays, we don't even talk about our personal lives together--nothing! I told her it was just intimate friends + family.  I hate when people just expect to be invited because they know you or knew you.  Anyway, as selfish as it may sound, its YOUR wedding, try not to care what other people think (although I really should remember to take my own advice !!). 

P.S: I can't help but be excited about my wedding so I don't shy away from sharing some of this excitemet on FB even though I'm NOT inviting all of my FB friends...

Look, I don't understand what you are upset about.

In your message you say: "we're young and have better things to spend money on than a party", but then you get upset when somebody tells you "someone asked if we didn't invite them because we didn't want to feed them (!!)", which is btw *exactly* what you just wrote, ie that you don't have money to spend on a party.

So what is it that you don't like, that they said it the way it is?

I have had a few of those! Espcially from random party people that I only see maybe once a month that I don't particularly like. They are just looking for free food and an open bar, so I ignore them.

On a side note, I got an email from a college buddy of mine and she said that I better come to her wedding or else she was hate me forever. When is her wedding date? Of course on MY wedding day! I told her I couldn't make it because I was getting married and now she has demanded I change my date (mostly because we invited a lot of the same people, but since I sent out my invites first they all RSVPed yes to my wedding). The whole thing ruined our already dwindling friendship, but what can you do. :-)