Post # 1
Ok so I am getting married next month and have already told my sister (mtoh) and soon to be sister in law (moh) that I would like to have a bridal shower. I have given them both a guest list for the bridal shower and bachlorette party. I wasn’t going to say anything about not hearing about a bridal shower but a friend of mine who is a Mary Kay consultant asked when my bridal shower was because she would like to have a party then thinking it would be fun and all that. So question is what to do? Do I say,” Hey sis, when is my bridal shower? Afriend of mine wants to do Mary Kay with it?” I don’t want to be rude because I am not sure if I am even having one. Please help :0/ Thank you!
Post # 3
@Osoluvely30: …just connect the friend with your bridal party, don’t be the middle man and let them tell her directly, I’m sure they’re planning something, and just don’t want to bother you.
Post # 4
So two things – First, you really can’t tell someone to have a bridal shower for you without being rude. Second, I actually think your friend who wants to have a Mary Kay party at your shower is being really rude and pushy. It’s a shower, not an opportunity for her to sell Mary Kay. That would be really awkward for guests who are there to celebrate you. They shouldn’t be put in a position where they feel like they have to buy Mary Kay.
Post # 5
@Osoluvely30: A Mary Kay party could completely take over your shower! Just tell her you have nothing to do with the planning, or take her contact info and say you’ll pass it on.
Post # 6
It’s your sister of course you should just ask her. Maybe not the specifics but at least the date, time, and place!
Post # 8
AlliRae has it right. It’s rude to ask for a shower so you should not ask about when it is. A shower is something that someone offers to throw for you. If no one offers, you don’t get one. And having a Mary Kay party combined would be rude also. Your guests are there to honor you. There should be no selling of any kind at an event like that.
Post # 10
If i went to a shower and someone was selling Mary Kay, I would be pissed.
Post # 11
@Allirae: Thank you for your feedback :0) but I was not trying to tell my sisters to have a shower for me because I know how financial restraints are but as a just in case I did give them a guest list.
@aekc: Im starting to agree with you and it would be weird and pushy on the guest.
@Prettygirltisha: I know its my sister I just dont want to be rude and sound demanding you know..
Thank you for your feedback I really appreciate it
Post # 12
I agree with others on the NO Mary Kay consultant! I’ve been roped into these things where a Mary Kay (or other) consultant just wanted to “do free makeovers” or whatever, but then there’s always a sales pitch. It’s so awkward when you really have no intentions to buy! If you have a shower, your friends & family want to celebrate YOU, not buy beauty products.
Post # 13
You’re so right because at first she wanted to meet for a makeover and then the next day the party. So y’all are making it very clear she’s being very rude. Thank you guys so glad I posted.
Post # 14
Just an update. My sister aka matron of honor has been planning a surprise bridal shower all along lol I’m looking forward to it on Sept. 7 without the Mary Kay lol Thanks again ladies and now I have to figure out what to wear ? Any suggestions??
Post # 15
I have to agree with this comment. I think it is terribly rude for your friend to even suggest having a Mary Kay party associated with a bridal shower.
I wouldn’t put her in touch with your sister or whoever you think might be organizing one for you. Just tell your friend that you are not taking part in any plans adn will leave it up to others and also, perhaps a Mary Kay party could be organized in the months to follow your wedding…or not at all if you don’t want one.
I hope you have a great bridal shower.