I'd rather elope. advice please. Destination wedding.

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t think I’m alone in saying that if I could do it all over again, I’d have a destination wedding.  The wedding does tend to take over your lives and it really doesn’t need to.  Pick a fantastic place, invite who you need to invite, and whoever can make it will make it.  You’re a smart cookie!

Post # 5
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3519 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Pick the place and then make a guest list–you wouldn’t invite coworkers to Bermuda, so its easy!  If he buys the destination wedding idea, he’ll quickly understand that it inherently means fewer, more significant guests.  Does that make sense?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Laurenskii:  

I wanted to elope–just the 2 of us, and then have a small celebration with close family and friends afterward. My then-FI had a huge guest list and said the exact same thing as yours while we were planning. We reached an impasse for awhile, but what made him come back down to earth was when we got further along in planning and he realized how much money all of this would cost. We ended up eloping and had our honeymoon at the same time, and when we came back, we had a dinner for 35 people–this included his family and mine, and a couple of super close friends. It all worked out fine, and we didn’t go broke either. So the same thing may happen to your FI.

I will say this though. As much a proponent of eloping as I was, I sometimes regret not having a traditional wedding and inviting all of the people he wanted. It doesnt keep me up nights, but sometimes I think it may have been a lot of fun to have this huge party.

Post # 8
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Newbee

@Laurenskii:

I know a few people that have used charts like this to get the lists smaller after they write everyone down. It add a perspective on the guests relationship to you instead of just someone you know.

 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Laurenskii:  The *great* thing about destination weddings in this economic climate is most people you invite cannot attend. We couldnt invite 100 people right now, and I promise you only 20 would show up.

 

Post # 11
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2962 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Tell him you guys will do the DW with just close fam and friends and come back and do a restaurant reception with the rest of the guests later. This is what I would have done if I could have done my wedding all over again.

Post # 12
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683 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Laurenskii:  DH and I eloped last year in the Bristish Virgin Islands. Everything was perfect and the best part is it was just the two of us!  e.  We had a party about 4 months later and invited friends and family (about 70 people came).  It was a blast.  I highly recommend doing things this way!  So much less stressful!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Laurenskii:  it is! And its a happy compromise for the two of you!

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