Ideal marrying age

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Ideal age to get married
    18-21 : (6 votes)
    2 %
    22-23 : (21 votes)
    7 %
    24-26 : (115 votes)
    36 %
    27-29 : (131 votes)
    41 %
    30-35 : (33 votes)
    10 %
    35 plus : (5 votes)
    2 %
    Other- please explain : (7 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    1749 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think the late teenage years and the 20’s to early 30’s is the best age range in which to get married, but mostly because those are the best years for having or starting to have children. Those are also the ages when most people start wanting or needing the type of relationship and companionship that marriage can provide. 

    Other than that reason, I don’t think there is an ideal age. Everybody matures at different rates and in different ways, so the right age is when you are able to handle marriage and have or are willing to acquire the skills that make good, healthy marriages possible. 

    Sometimes people just need to be married, as odd as that sounds. So for those people, whenever the need for marriage arises is the time they should get married. That could be earlier in life, later in life, or right in the middle of it. 

    Post # 4
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    187 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I agree that there’s no ideal age.  I think it depends more on how well you know each other, and what is going on in your life.  I think if you’ve been with each other for a couple of years (which you have), and you have stability in your life (good job and living on your own/supporting yourself) you are ready for marriage.  Just my two cents 🙂

    Post # 5
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    1969 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @futurejhart:

    OP, you should add a poll.

     For me, the ideal age would be 27.  I’m basing this on my personal circumstances though.  Where we are financially, the type of wedding I know we want, other future goals, our careers, when we want to start having kids & etc.

     

    Post # 6
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    394 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Obviously it’s completely different for everyone based on maturity level, financial stability, etc. but if I had to choose an ideal marrying age, I would say 28-30. Lower limit would be like 26. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    204 posts
    Helper bee

    Well my SO and I both want to marry in early twenties wait a couple years and then try for kids. I’m 23 and will be 24 when I’m married. My SO is almost 22. But it is different for all. I want to be able to run around with my future grandkids one day and hopefully still have some energy. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee

    For me–It’s hard to say.  I’ve always wanted to be married/be a wife–but get married at 24?!?!  NO WAY!  I always thought 27 was a good age to get engaged, then married by 30–

    But I’ll say this:

    Coming up with these timelines EFFED ME UP man.  Because when 30 rolled around and I wasn’t married and trying for kids–even engaged, well, it really ruined year 30 for me.  Undecided

    Now I’m really glad that I haven’t been married yet–and I don’t have an *ideal* age when it should happen.  Maybe my SO propses tomorrow, maybe he proposes 10 years from now. 

    Point:  It’s up to the people getting married when it’s right.  You don’t hit a magic ‘age’ and all of the sudden it’s RIGHT.  You have to be there as a well rounded person ready to get married—and as a couple who actually work well together. 

    Post # 9
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    394 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @katiecat08:  I’m totally not bashing your decision to have kids a little younger–you are TOTALLY free to do whatever you want!

    However, I always found it odd when people say that the reason they’re choosing to have kids at 20, 22, 24, etc. instead of 28, 29, 30, etc. is that they want to be able to have energy for their grandkids. The difference between 23 and 28 might seem big now, but when you’re grandparent age, 4 or 5 or 6 years really doesn’t make a whole lot of a difference.

    Post # 12
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    4601 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    When first started seriously considering the fact that I might actually get married, I thought that 25 or 26 would be the best age. When I get married in March, I’ll be a month shy of 24. I am also from Alabama, and some people might consider me to be a little older than the average bride. Most ladies here tend to be around 21 when they get married. 

    Post # 13
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    4043 posts
    Honey bee

    Personally, I think 25 and up. But that’s just for me.

    Post # 15
    Member
    547 posts
    Busy bee

    For me, marrying in my 20s is too young. I’ll be waiting until I’m at least 30, but I’m thinking we should wait until we’re 31 to get married so we can marry on our 15th anniversary. We’ve been together nearly 10 years at this point and we’re not even engaged! We’ll be engaged within the year, but I haven’t had any issue with our pace. 

    We moved in wit one another when we were 17, which probably wouldn’t work for most, but we’ve been moving slow since then.

    Post # 16
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    1104 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’ll be married when I’m 27 and I think that’s a little young actually. I’m from a small town and most of my peer group I went to high school with are married and are on kid #1 or 2. Then when I went to college many of my friends in their late twenties and early to mid thirties aren’t even married yet. 30-35 would be ideal marrying age IMO.

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