Ideally, I want it all.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5298 posts
Bee Keeper

@PetuniaPie:  You haven’t been reading the right threads. I thought I wanted to get married again and have an actual wedding. WB has made me want to elope again for my vow renewal and skip an actual wedding all together :

Since joining the Bee though, I do want to be able to wear one of each style dress and have multiple honeymoons. I would also like an engagement ring of every style for each finger 🙂

Post # 4
2897 posts
Sugar bee

WB is making me want to elope. Getting married has never been a dream for me, but traveling and eating fancy food in Paris, I can’t wait ! We could afford it if we eloped. But while my mind is telling me it would cost less althogether if we simply eloped/had a luxury weddingmoon, my heart can’t deal with the thought of not having my parents and my sister with me when I get married. 

Also, untraditional venues for super small crowds are not common here. I struggled to find anything reasonable for 60 guests as it is considered a small crowd. 

I’m so envious of Bees who get to marry in paradisiac environments alone, or just have a fancy treat with 8-12 guests. How I would spend my money differently and had made different choices if we had not crossed the elopment and DW options right away.

Post # 7
2567 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Elope.  Seriously.  We’re so happy we did it’s not even funny.  We had the best time with zero drama.

Post # 8
7435 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

no, i had a vision of what i wanted and that’s what i did.


Post # 10
12484 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

How many weddings would be too many?

More than one.

I think you’re smart to postpone the wedding until you can decide what you want. 

Post # 12
2897 posts
Sugar bee

@PetuniaPie:  Family is what makes it harder. I’d like to have a reception, but after the weddingmoon we couldn’t afford to spend 5K over food and alcohol. People would have to pay for their own things. Also, our families live a few hours apart, so either they’d be traveling, either we’d have to make 2 of those events.

We have found a venue but the deposit isn’t paid yet. The place is lovely, and it will be a beautiful garden wedding, but the thought of exchanging vows in front of 60 peoples is very intimidating to me. I hate to be the center of attention. I wanted a smaller event than that.

The first thing I thought was doing a DW and inviting a few people to come. But that would mean they would have to pay their airflight, accommodation and everything. FI felt he could never ask that to his parents, that it was like forcing them to spend 3K on vacations and of course, they’ll want to come, they *can’t* decline their only son’s wedding … I understand his point, and I think our decision not to have a DW is mainly because we don’t dare asking people to spend so much.

Post # 16
7109 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t really want another wedding, but I do wish we could throw a lavish party every year to celebrate our anniversary with all our fmaily and friends.

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