(Closed) Ideas for ceremony?

posted 8 years ago in Secular
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Have you looked at the sand ceremony? We were shown two different ceremonies, one that was religious and involved the officiant using a third color of sand to represent God as the foundation in the relationship.  But the other was just the two of us to represent the joining of our two lives and we were much more comfortable with that.  We are going to have a short prayer but we don’t want anything too religious just because of our personal preferences.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

We had 3 readings (I found them on WB and Indie Bride) and a wine and box ceremony. I think the whole thing took 20 minutes or so.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Oh, oh! I also just read about a thing called a love letter ceremony.  The wine and box comment reminded me (it might be the same thing?).  You each write a letter to each other and seal it.  You lock it in a box with some wine and two glasses and set a date to open it in the future (like tenth or twenty fifth anniversary or something).  Then you open it and read the letters you wrote on your wedding date and drink the wine together.  I thought it sounded sweet but I can’t wait to read the letter so it wouldn’t be ideal for me.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Yes the love letter is the same as the wine and box. If you don’t think you’d want to wait to read the letter, and you don’t like wine, then it’s probably not a good idea though. Personally I have no interest in reading the letter (in fact it didn’t even occur to me until now that anyone would), I’d much rather leave it until an anniversary much later. I’m looking forward to that. I think another WB reader did it but they were going to do a new letter every year, which is another spin on it. I can’t remember who that was though.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Look up Jewish traditions. They’re quite meaningful and don’t have to be religious. FI is atheist and we’re doing a full Jewish wedding and he doesn’t seem to mind. For example, there are seven blessings, but they have modern interpretations – the idea is to celebrate the couple, the community, and the world. Circling to represent the intertwining of lives. Drinking wine together to share the joy of life.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I just put together a ceremony for some friends and while it wasn’t completely secular it kept the God Talk to a minimum and would be easy to convert.  I found this thread on IndieBride super helpful and I’m happy to share both that ceremony and my own if you like.  Just sent me a PM.  It’s took long to stick in here.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I’m in the same boat too. I’ve been thinking that it will include some readings, perhaps a recap of how FI and I met. I’ve also thought about something that other married couples can do to contribute to our wedding. As an asian bride, I’m considering doing a tea ceremony (presenting tea to our parents and grandparents). Or a handtying ceremony. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Something that FMIL suggested from her wedding that I thought sounded nice was, FH’s dad liked different aspects of different religions/cultures, and one of the cultures he admired was the Quakers. So during their ceremony or reception, they allowed time for anyone to stand up and speak.  Whether it was a nice story about the couple or just wanted to give their best wishes. She said it was nice because you got to hear how people felt, and reminisce in stories, and it allowed everyone to participate if they wished. Just an idea….

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