Post # 1
Hi bees! I’m having a bit of a problem – very small, very first-world, but I could use some help.
Darling Husband and I try to do a date night once a week – sometimes a date night in, sometimes a date night out. I love both! We also try to spend Sundays together (one-on-one or with friends), since that’s the only day we have off together.
I know I’m lucky in that sense. Here’s the thing – we try to do activities and we’re on a budget, so some things we do include bowling, pool, fishing, shooting range, etc. The problem is that Darling Husband is good at these things and I am NOT. I don’t mind being bad at them and I still have fun, especially in a group.
However, when it’s just me and Darling Husband, he gets competitive (with himself, not me), which means he beats me even worse, and he repeatedly tries to “teach” me how to do it better (aka his way). I’ve told him repeatedly that if I wanted lessons, I would ask him for help or advice. It’s starting to ruin these type of outings – it’s boring to watch him win everything and it’s frustrating to have him lecture or “teach” me when it’s supposed to be a relaxed, fun date.
We’ve discussed this how we do things he likes (and thus is good at because he does them often) all the time. But when he asks me what we could do that fits my interests, I’m at a loss. I like to read. I like to run (we’ve tried that together; complete disaster). I like to be silly and laugh at myself.
Can you ladies give me some inspiration on other “date night out” activities that maybe we haven’t thought of?
Post # 3
My Darling Husband and I do a surprise date once a month. One of us plans a date for each other, but doesn’t tell the other what we’re doing and we alternate months. It has to be an activity, but it can be anything. It’s actually really fun because part of the fun is wondering where we are going. We have done cooking classes, glass blowing classes, painting classes, day trips to small towns with good shops and breweries, brewery tours and a some other things. Def check groupon because that’s where a lot of these ideas have come from. It can be as simple as going on a hike and it doesn’t have to be all day.
Post # 4
Bewery tours, wine tasting, farmers market, hiking, festivals, local museums
Post # 5
Are there conservation areas nearby with walking/hiking trails? Bring a camera, get some nice nature shots and some fresh air :). Maybe do a picnic?
Post # 6
@LadyBear: I was going to say the same activities as ash064, in addition to comedy shows and live music. SO and I went to a winefest in VA last year and we had so much fun!
Post # 7
@fuzzle79: I LOVE this idea! Borrowing it 🙂
@LadyBear: We do the bowling thing, too. What I’ve been wanting to do lately, as a “date”, is to start walking the expansive nature preserve by our place 🙂
Post # 8
Hmm, the only thing I can come up with is geocaching.
Oh, I just remembered something. I work in real estate and Boyfriend or Best Friend wants to buy a house within the next two to three years so we have developed a little game.
We’ll get in the car and just drive around, looking at houses that are for sale. It’s fun to see what kind of houses are available and it’s also fun to see what BF’s taste is when it comes to buying houses.
We also will be just driving along on our way to do something else and we’ll suddenly say to each other “Hmm, I like that house” or “I don’t like that house” whenever we drive past a house.
We also like to get up early sometimes on Saturday and check out the local yard sales. I don’t know if this will work for you because you may find it boring. But we always have fun! 🙂
Post # 9
@LadyBlackheart: I like browsing yard sales and farmer’s markets (another bee mentioned them) – unfortunately, most of the ones I can find are on Saturdays and Darling Husband works Saturdays. We are limited to Sundays and Mon/Tues evenings.
Post # 11
My H is an uber fit person. He is going to be good at every activity we do and I will never ever be at his level – even though I’m a pretty active person. He cannot swim though, so I got that on him! LOL
Yesterday we went for a 10 mile mountain bike ride and he was kind of doing laps like a dog would do. I was also very cloudy from my allergies so jus not in peak performance basically. I have to really LEARN to be OK with it honestly. Just enjoy being outside, with your man, and that’s it. Appreciate you have two legs that can allow you to do these things. These things help me get out of the funk that I’m a slow poke!
I say keep up with the activities, especially hiking. I do not know how anyone could be “bad” at hiking. It’s just walking! If it’s super hard for you (you get out of breath) then that means you need to do it more – if you enjoy it. Some sports are not weekend hobbies, you kind of need to get in shape for them. So keep it up! Hiking is great – you can bring a lunch together, and sit down at a scenic spot to talk. Don’t decline just because he’s a faster hiker. If you like it, keep doing it.
Other things my H and I do together, we VOLUNTEER. We go on trips that help people with disabilities or wounded veterans get into the outdoors. We’re leaving for a 4 night raft trip this week in fact. This non-profit also has tons of day activities too. We also volunteer for my local dog rescue agency by helping with fundraisers.
Post # 12
We took cake decorating classes together a few years ago & are signing up for Spanish classes soon. We try to think of fun & interesting things to do as a couple.
Post # 13
Thanks for the ideas! We went for a walk yesterday evening, and I talked him into signing up for a mini-ballroom dancing course (4 classes) with me. I used to belong to the swing dance club in college and even though I’m not very good at it, I love dancing.
If anyone has more ideas, feel free to add. I’m definitely going to use some of the ones mentioned.
Post # 14
Here are some date (some are more day-time activities) activities we do together:
Hiking, walking around malls & people watching, getting a hotel room for the night, gardening….