- 6 years ago
Hi, Bees! I’m starting a thread for sharing ideas about ways for including a charitable/socially-conscious focus in your wedding. It’s so easy to get caught up in materialistic details, to become self-absorbed, etc., during the process – and fighting against that sometimes makes a gal feel like she’s being sanctimonious/pretentious/up on a soapbox. Fortunately, though, there are also some really cool ways to incorporate a focus on giving to others in the wedding planning. Here are some of the things my Fiance and I have explored – please share any others that you’ve found!
– I was able to get a lovely gown at a good price through the Brides Against Breast Cancer gown sale. http://www.bridesagainstbreastcancer.org Since then, I’ve also heard about the Brides’ Project and Church Street Bridal, bricks-and-mortar stores that also direct their proceeds toward charitable causes.
– We set up our wedding website through the I Do Foundation. They let you set up a charity “registry” so that guests can make charitable donations in lieu of a regular gift, or, if they still want to give a traditional gift, you can register at participating stores that will donate a percentage of the purchase. I actually have slightly mixed feelings on this one. Pros: I love the concept, and I really hope it works. Cons: I’ve heard that these kinds of registries don’t often generate very much in the way of donations; guests have to link to your registry through your site and make their purchases online in order to get the donation to count, it doesn’t apply to in-store purchases; the website template sticks the “Registries” link up second-from-the-top on the menu, and you can’t move it. We felt like we needed to apologize for having it so prominent on the site – we would rather have put it near the bottom to de-emphasize it. Yes, the point of the site is to raise money for charity through registries, so it makes sense, but it also feels rude and greedy and I worry that it’s kind of counterproductive for them to do it that way. After all, it’s just basic wedding etiquette that you shouldn’t wave your registry under people’s noses.
– We’ve heard that some caterers will work with you to donate leftover food from the reception to a local homeless shelter, soup kitchen, etc. It depends on the regulations in your area whether or not they are allowed to do this. We’ll be meeting with the caterer this week and will be asking if it’s an option.
– We’ve also heard about making a donation on our guests’ behalf in lieu of giving them favors. My Fiance isn’t 100% on board with that – he thinks it will come across as pretentious. He’s all in favor of making the donation, but thinks we should give them at least a small favor in addition. We’re looking into getting fair-trade chocolates from a local business.
Any other suggestions out there from socially-conscious bees?