Post # 1
The title says it all. I am at a loss. Were having a small wedding and chose our guestlist wisely. We dont want the people who are coming to snap a picture of me coming down the aisle on post it on their wall or any other moment. I plan on putting it on the card Im putting in thr welcome bag. But Im not sure how to go about it.
Post # 3
I think we need to know why you’re so against it to help advise you how to word it.
Post # 4
You can’t control what people put on Facebook. I also think it’s rude to try to control your guests that much, especially since they’ve come to celebrate with you.
(1) Disable your facebook. You can’t be tagged, and you won’t see them
(2) Do an unplugged wedding and ask your guests to not take photos (lots of threads about this recently…I personally think it’s rude, but that’s neither here nor there).
Post # 5
Welcome! In order to perserve the intimate feel of our wedding, we ask that you refrain from posting any wedding details or pictures on social media sites.
Post # 7
There’s only about 30 guests (maybe less) coming to our Destination Wedding. We spent a lot of time not advertising things and keeping a low profile. We are private people. I dont care what they do with photos once everyone goes home. I will totally untag myself afterwards. I would just prefer people not tweet/instagram/facebook/anything else through the course of the evening.
I know I cant control it but I want to at least say it, but I wont be demanding it.
Post # 8
Have you checked out the Unplugged Wedding signage on Offbeat Brides?
Wording + Signage
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Put up a nicely worded sign in a conspicuous place where guests will see it when they arrive. Provide programs and write a nice note at the bottom of the program for the ceremony. Provide menu cards and write a nice note at the bottom of the menu card for the reception.
Post # 10
@StL.Ashley: thank you!
@lilbluebird: i dont mind that they take personal photos. i would never ask them not to. i just didnt want everything blasted all over the internet moments after it all goes down.
Post # 11
Plus, people post TERRIBLE pictures on Facebook. Out of focus, badly composed, facial expressions caught at the wrong times…I completely understand why people wouldn’t want pictures all over the place.
Post # 12
Set your facebook profile settings so that people can not see photos that you are tagged in. Also there’s some new setting that you have to activate and you can review everything before it goes on your timeline when people tag your name or your photo so you can restrict what appears on your timeline. 🙂
Hope that helps!
Post # 13
I just changed my Facebook where I have to approve of pictures and tags before they show up on my timeline. It works great, nothing will show up unless I say it is okay.
I did this because I have a friend that tags all of her friends at every stupid little detail of her life, and I really didn’t want a timeline of what bars I went to showing up for all to see, as it happens. It should work well for you in this situation too.
Post # 15
FWIW, we did an unplugged wedding and we still had people take pictures of us during the ceremony (yes they were extremely unflattering – bad angle, lighting, you name it). Though we were not tagged, people still saw them, so not tagging them is not an option. How did people see them? In the age of Facebook, everyone is each other’s friend on there. So while you may not have invited x, y and z, a may be a mutual contact of x, y and z so they still get to see pictures of you and know that they were not invited and what your wedding looked. This is what happened to us. We had a small wedding and many people that expected to be invited were not. We literally never posted anything about the wedding and the events leading up to it.
Post # 16
@lilbluebird: Same here. We specifically made a request for people to put their cameras and phones away and it’s like no one heard the officiant. There was a guy getting in the way of the photographer the entire time.
You can change your FB setting to require approval before it’s posted to your wall.
Maybe you’ll have better luck with a smaller group but I just had to stop caring about people being in face with their phones all day and enjoy the moment!