Post # 1
My dear FI’s father passed away years ago and I unfortunately never got a chance to meet him. FI always comments that he is sad that I never got to meet his dad as we would have gotten along and he thinks he would have really loved me. I was trying to think of a way to honor is father at our wedding, or something I could do for my FI?
As I was typing this I was thinking one thing I could so is write a letter to his father saying the things that I wish I had the chance to tell him (like thank you for raising such a wonderful son, etc.)
I would appreciate any thoughts/ideas you lovely ladies might have? Thank you!
Post # 3
This is a really tough one. It depends a lot on your FI’s perspective about his father’s death. I’d talk to him about whatever it is that you do, before you do it.
My dad died a few years ago (luckily FI did get to meet him but certainly didn’t get to know his as well as I would have liked)…I don’t know how I’d feel about FI writing him a letter…on the one hand it would be really nice, but on the other it would just highlight again how much it sucks that FI didn’t ever get to actually say those things to him. Again, it’s really based on how your FI feels about the whole situation.
Some common ways of honoring a deceased parent at the wedding: having the minister mention him, putting mention of him in the program/other wedding stationary, mentioning him in a toast, photos of him in an honorable place, empty seat left in memory of him (that one seems a little depressing to me, though), lighting a candle in his memory…