Post # 1
My finance and I both recently lost our fathers. I am looking for a way to honor and remember them on our wedding day. However, I want to keep the focus on us and our marriage and not make it anything too big or distracting. I’d love to hear what other brides have done in regards to fathers who have passed or really any family member or loved on. Thanks!
Post # 3
@Yoders18: I am so sorry about your loss but I think it is lovely that you want to do something to remember your father’s on your special day. My favorite tribute is when the bride attaches small photographs of passed loved ones on her bouquet. This is a great way to have your Dad with you when you walk down the aisle 🙂 Your groom could also do something similar with his bout., maybe attaching a charm with his father’s initials if something more dainty would be suitable.
Post # 4
@Yoders18: I really like the above suggestion with photos on the bouquet. A wedding I went to 6 months ago they had a glass hurricane candle holder etched with a beautiful saying and the names of their fathers on it, flanked by photos of them at a table close to where you walked in, with a candle lit inside. I’ve come across a few ideas for our upcoming wedding, not entirely sure which ones we’ll incorporate but I’d like to have a memory table with candles, photos and sweet stories about the departed in frames. I’d like them mentioned at the beginning of the ceremony, and maybe evening lighting candles at the beginning of the ceremony – sorta like the candle representing them being there, or might even have an empty seat ‘reserved’ for my grandmother … Not entirely sure, just some thoughts that I’ve come across, but not entirely sure the execution yet though
Post # 5
@Yoders18: I am an encore bride, and at my first wedding, I had a candle lit in rememberance of my mom, by a picture of her before the ceremony started that burned the whole day. This time around, we are mentioned both my parents (my dad has since passed) in our program, stating that they are with us in spirit.
Post # 6
I was thinking of having a small moment of silence in the begining and then I’m putting our grandparents wedding pictures around a memory candle
Post # 7
I like the small photos too!
At my wedding, we had a place on our program that said “In Loving Memory..” and then listed my departed grandparents. If my grandmother’s wedding rings hadn’t been stolen by an ex-roommate in college, I would have incorporated them into my look.
I have also heard of women who sew a piece of their loved ones clothing into their dress, as a way to carry them with them during the day. If that is an option for you, that would be a sweet touch, and not take the focus off of you as very few people may know that.
Post # 8
Both fiance and I have lost our moms. We are reserving the first seat on each side of the aisle for our moms. With a photo of them and likely a sign that says “we know you’d be with us today, if heaven weren’t so far away.”
I know that the typical order of things has the mother of the groom seated, then the mother of the bride before the processional begins. I’m altering the order just slightly… The groom will come out with the officiant as is normal… his brother will be “escorting” their mom by carrying a single rose down the aisle and placing it on her chair before joining him at the alter (bro is also BM)…and then my sister will do the same for our mom.
Still trying to decide on a song or a reading of some sort to have while this is happening, but haven’t gotten that far yet.
I will also have a single dragonfly in my own bouquet and each of my BM bouquets as my mother loved dragonflies.
And at the reception, the photos of them will be at a memorial table so that they are with us the whole night.
Post # 9
I’m doing this, and having it set up at our reception. I like the idea of the tree, and we can display it in our home after the wedding. I really want to do this for FI as both his parents have passed.
Post # 10
FI’s father died a long time ago.. so to remember him at the wedding we’re doing 2 things.
1. On the program where we list parents of the bride and parents of the groom.. under his mom we’re putting his dad’s name and then (in loving memory) next to it.
2. We’re getting one extra boutenniere which the groom will carry I think, and there will be a 5×7 framed picture of his dad up at the Rabbi’s table.. FI will go and put the boutenniere in front of the picture in rememberance and to have a ‘moment with his dad’ at the ceremony (this was actually our Rabbi’s idea)
I love the pictures on the bouquet for your dad as well. 🙂
Post # 11
There are some great ideas here… and I’m just commenting to follow, as a waiting bee who just lost her mother.