Post # 1
Hello everyone, i’m hoping some of your can come up with some great ideas for me because i’m a bit stuck! Here is the background:
We are due to get married in Sri Lanka on the bank of a lake in the hills amoungst colonial tea plantations, it is just the two of us, family are banned! The hotel we are staying at is will be providing us with a lovely candle lit dinner on our wedding night, it is however remote and we are therefore limited as to where else we can go and what things we can do.
To keep costs down we are having a simple civil ceremony probably at around 3/4pm, there won’t be music during the ceremony (they wanted extra for that!) and afterwards we will have a glass of champagne and cut a small cake in a summerhouse in the grounds of the hotel.
Here are my concerns:
– the civil vows are very short and i’m worried that it will be over so quickly that it will feel like we’ve not really had a wedding at all! There is no one to do a reading for us and we are not the biggest romantics so personal vows aren’t really us.
– we have the summerhouse for champagne and cake cutting but no one to give a speech or toast us, again I am worried that it will feel like it is all over in five minutes.
I have a couple of ideas to add some touches to the day to make it feel special and fill the gaps as follows:
– I am thinking about doing a reading myself as a suprise for my partner but i’m not sure when to do it, should it be after the civil vows during the ceremony or during the champagne and cake?! I can’t help but feel a little silly making a speech to just my h2b but I guess it means that it can be very personal!
– I am going to buy a sky lantern for us to light and launch at some point during the evening, I thought maybe after dinner.
So, any nice ideas on how to extend te ceremony / reception with just the two of us?!
Thanks in advance (sorry for the massive rambly post!).
Post # 3
You may want to reconsider the vows. Or maybe each of you pick a “reading” or poem to read to each other during the ceremony. I agree that making the ceremony a little longer will make it feel more “wedding like”.
Also, what are you doing the morning of to get ready? Are you going to a hotel salon? That special treatment will make the day feel more special as well.
Maybe do a simple lighting of the candles as part of the ceremony.
Post # 4
i did a non religious ceremony and incorporated the wine box ceremony. we loved it and its something to look forward to on our 10 year anniversary!
Post # 5
@dynamic_duo: thanks, thats a really great idea!! I’ll be doing some research on that!
Thanks for the ideas everyone, keep em coming! 🙂
Post # 6
My DH and I had a two person wedding too.
We did traditional vows and wrote our own vows, who says you cant have two vows.
We also did the winebox ceremony.
Post # 7
as for a reception – can you arrange some private dinner with a private waiter somewhere outside? on our honeymoon, we did a private dinner on the beach and it was hands down the best “date” we ever had!! totally extra special and romantic too. if we had done a 2 person wedding, i think that would have been the ideal way to have our wedding dinner. and so it made our honeymoon extra special.
if you look at my honeymoon recap, scroll down to post #20 – 33 to read more how about how it was and pics.
Post # 8
Can you ask friends and family to record videos or write you little notes? Then you can read them before you drink kind of like little toasts 🙂
Post # 9
@mwitter80: thanks, thats another good one – my h2b has an honourary best man who could maybe organise a video or collect some notes.
Post # 10
I think the whole thing sounds lovely. Have you made arrangements for a photographer? Maybe having photos of the wedding, and doing some of the traditional posing, even if it’s just the two of you, would make it feel more “wedding”?
Post # 11
@dynamic_duo: your photos look lovely by the way, we are having a private dinner in the gardens of our hotel on the wedding day, I was a little concerned that it would feel odd with a waiter standing around with just the two of you but presumably you didn’t find that? It does look lovely!!
@Elvis: we have booked a photographer, my dress would have gone to waste without one!!!! The photo’s should be lovely as the hotel has beautiful grounds, we’ll have some photos of our reception when we get back as well but the surroundings are no where near as pretty.
Thanks for some great ideas, any others greatly appreciated – you can’t have too much of a good thing!! 🙂
Post # 12
These can be added to a civil ceremony and are super super sweet. We used them for both our ceremonies and DH cried both times – since we are older we did customize them to us.
****Please face each other and take each other’s hands, so that you may see the gift that they are to you.
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever.
These are the hands that will work along side yours as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief temporarily comes your way.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes, tears of sorrow and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.
These are the hands that will give you support and encouragement to chase down your dreams.
These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
These are the hands that will lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into eyes that are filled with overwhelming love for you.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.
Post # 13
@brunette: i thought it might be weird too, but it wasn’t! it was cool having the waiter. my husband is very sociable too, so he made some good conversation with the waiter, lol!
Post # 14
@dynamic_duo: hopefully ours will be ok then, that is my main concern that we’ll feel self conscious during our wedding with just two of us surrounded by hotel staff! I’m sure they are used to it though and know how to make your feel at ease.
Still after any great ideas people, please do post if you think if anything!! 🙂