Post # 1
So FI doesn’t want any groomsmen. I can’t imagine my day without my best friends… so we’re looking to compromise and need ideas….
We’re having a Jewish wedding and our families will be under the Chuppah with us — my parents, brother and sister in law on my side; his parents, sister and brother in law on his side.
I have two best friends who are going to be in the wedding no matter what — a female “matron of honor” and my “gay husband” who will be my man of honor. I have 2 other female friends I want up there with me, but having 4 more people on my side than on FI’s might look silly, but I want them there! I want them getting ready with me, I want them in pictures, etc.
So how can we make this work? Will it look absurd if he just has family and I have my cadre of friends? Will it make him look friendless?
What are your thoughts?
Post # 3
Is he okay with this (you having some and him not)? I would just place some people on his side and some on your side to even it up.
Post # 4
I would let you friends stand with you as you walk down the aisle, kiss you then let them have a seat. It is going ot look weird with that many people up there. I normally don’t care about uneveness but 4 to 0 is too much of a big deal.
Post # 5
You could ask your friends to stand up for you as a couple, instead of just for you, then split them to stand on either “your” side or “his” side based on height, so that each of you gets one of the two tallest and one of the two shortest, making a nice even line. Doing it by height prevents any chance that anyone gets their feelings out of whack for being placed on one side or the other, and having all of the attendants come from your social circle can be seen as your loved ones welcoming your fiance to the extended family/friend network.
As a guest, watching 4 bridal attendants of either gender each kiss the bride, say a little wish in her ear (because that will happen even if you don’t plan for it) then take a seat is going to make the processional drag out, possibly uncomfortably.