Idk what to do about my nephew.

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@taraelisabeth:  Have you called child protective services? 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It sounds drastic, but please consider calling CPS- they will assign a social worker to her, and they can provide her tools to learn how to parent.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Wow! You need to just confront her with what you know. And I would have your mother file again for custody. This is just so sad

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

that’s terrible and so irresponsible.

i would have your other sister document everything she witnesses while she is there. 

do you think that maybe you should suggest that this boy has a few snacks in his room for the morning?  maybe an apple or granola bar?   does your niece have to stay in her room in the morning too??

it sounds like he’s always being punished.  poor kid.  he is going to be in therapy when he gets older.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Could you maybe contact his teacher at school and see if she has noticed anything? Perhaps DHR would take a report from a school more seriously….I don’t know. I’m sorry that’s a terrible situation to be in.

 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It doesn’t sound like abuse (though who am I to judge) but perhaps neglect. My best advice would be to make sure that you and your mum are able to spend as much time with BOTH children as possible – engage them in activities, take them out for day trips etc. Show them what it’s like to be active and caring, help him with reading. Tell your sister you’ll be there at 8 or 9 to pick him up and then be there, even if she says no. 

Maybe your sister from out of town is exaggerating (remember there are always two sides to every story and the truth is often in the middle). Your sister may be doing her best, may be stressed out because of x or y or z or who knows. 

I definitely agree about getting school, teacher, etc involved but sometimes they aren’t helpful either. I think if you and your mum help him out then he will know who he can count on. 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Your sister sounds frustrated.  She doesn’t know how to be a parent, it’s all about her and she gets pissed off when something interupts that.  STOP saying her husband is a good  guy… how the eff can he be to let this go on in his house?  

We have similar problem.  My niece has two girls, by two dads, and a drug problem.  The second father’s parents have temporary custody of her, and have since before she was a year old.  The older one has been in temporary custody of my SIL for 8 years or so.  Thank god for the drug problem, and the fact my niece took off and left the kids at home.  She really is self centered and selfish and evil.  She has done some really sick demented crap. 

 

Document EVERYTHING.  Talk to teachers, daycare, and neighbors.  I’m not sure you confronting your sister directly would be a great thing…. Remember the courts believe no matter how demented the parents are, that the child always belongs with their natural parents. If your sister gets cornered or pissed off she can deny you all visitation and then no one looks out for him.  What if you found some tutoring for nephew, and worked out a “visitation” schedule so your sister gets him a few nights a week but you or your mom get him the rest of the week?  The documentation was key to getting good results everytime we go to court.  

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