- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014 - Italiano's Humble
So, one of FH’s friend’s/GM is a high up corporate guy. I’d definitely say while he’s hilarious, very inquisitive(I’ve only tt him online during their game), and understanding…he also appears to be very generous.
He’s been into helping FH plan, and they ask me questions as they go. Cool, I think it’s awesome, LOL. Anyhow. I made mention we were offering beer/wine/champagne and of course mixers and non alcoholic beverages(another bee’s post about a lemonade bar has me SOOOO excited, but I don’t wanna copy! LOL).
Well, he inquired as to whether it was a budget thing, venue thing, or personal choice. I told him more a budget thing, but at same time, being NYE I don’t want to worry about my guests getting DUI’s etc(hence, a party bus rental! YAY! LOL!)…
The last couple nights, he’s made comments that have implied he is willing to PAY for a couple of these things. As in, add hard liquor(which, given the party bus, would be nice, as we can BYOB, and takes the DUI away), and the bus, etc.
If this were one of our family members, I’d be sheepish, but extraordinarily grateful/thankful. But it’s not. It’s a friend of FH’s, who, if it weren’t for their “love of the game” lol, would possibly not even be in our social circle. I’ve let FH know, if his dad or my stepdad whipped out cash for this stuff, I’d accept it(and regret it, if it were my mom, LOL). But that if his friend were to offer, and especially if he didn’t accept no, I’d be GREATLY embarassed. I know most people would humbly accept such a gift(and maybe call it a wedding gift, in leiu of actual monetary handling-so to speak). Me? I’m not too proud, I’m just very “If I can’t afford it, I don’t need it”.
How do I handle this? FH has said knowing his group of friends, this is generally a norm. They’re all game players, and generally(based on length of “knowing” one another), gifts vary. to the point, where I’ve heard one player gave another almost $500 between cash/gifts. IDK how to accept this. Hell, now that I’m thinking about it, I’m worried how I’d accept it from ANYONE. My circle, UP TO $100 is average, and maybe/plus a $25-$40 registry gift. Anything over that, is generally a group gift, or a family member who has been saving up.
Sorry it’s so long. I just really don’t know about anything like this. I’m not an extravagant person, and some of “they guys” are.