Post # 1
I guess this is more for the engaged/married bees. But I was wondering, if there were someone better out there for you, would you want to know? If you met your “soulmate” while you were with your fiance or husband, would you leave him for a chance to be even happier?
Post # 3
I’ll go first – I wouldn’t want to know. I don’t believe in soulmates or one perfect person. There are a ton of things about FI that I’d improve if I could, but the overall package is wonderful and I’m happy. I wouldn’t leave him to be with someone I thought was better. What’s more, if there was someone out there who was actually better for me, I wouldn’t want to know. It would just confuse me and make me less content. I believe our marriage is a committment to doing the best we can with what we make together, so once we say “I do,” there’s no thought of trading out a player.
Post # 4
Oh goodness. I wouldn’t want to know. I love the hubbernutters and chose him because I thought he was the perfect one for me. I wouldn’t want to think it could be better or have any questions about him.
Post # 5
I don’t think there is a better person out there for me. Everything about him is what I need, even the things I don’t like.
ETA I don’t think there is such thing as the perfect man because no one is perfect! But he is perfect for ME =)
Post # 6
I wouldn’t want to know. I don’t believe in soulmates and no one is perfect. Even if I came across a guy that SEEMED more perfect for me, I don’t believe there is any way to know that until you’re inside of the relationship. So no, I wouldn’t want to start worrying about a better match out there.
Post # 7
No, I don’t believe in soulmates and I think people create their own unhappiness by looking for the next best thing so I wouldn’t want to open that can of worms. There is probably someone out there better for me but I’ve made the choice to start a life with my FI.
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Post # 9
@cyndistar3: I agree with this. My DH is perfect for me. Neither of us are perfect, but I do think we make an excellent match.
So, I guess the answer to OP’s question is no.
Post # 10
I am so crazy in love with my FI, I don’t believe there is a “better match.” I truly believe he is my soul mate(yes corny but i do believe everyone has someone meant for them), and we were meant to be together . There may be a guy who someone else thinks is more suited to me for whatever reason – but I wouldn’t marry my FI if I didn’t think he was “the one” – the ONLY one =)
Post # 11
No, I wouldn’t leave him for someone else.
Everyone has their positive and negative things. If someone else excelled in areas DH didn’t – there’d be other areas they were weaker.
I think it’s dangerous to make a lifelong commitment to someone else and ‘keep searching’.
If you aren’t content in your marriage, you are better off leaving and letting your spouse find someone who wants to be with them vs. staying in it until something seemingly better comes along.
I also don’t believe there’s ONE person out there. I think there are lots of people you could be compatible with… the choice is yours to make on who you want to be with and make a life with.
Post # 12
I don’t believe in soul mates (in the traditional sense), so I don’t think there is anyone else out there for me. I believe that a soul mate is a role you grow into over time as you share experiences and build your life together, not someone that is destined for you before you even meet them.
Post # 13
@Mrs. Spring: That is really a beautiful sentiment. It made me tear up a little bit…
Post # 14
@Mrs. Spring: That’s exactly how I feel, you put it really nicely 🙂
Post # 15
No I wouldnt want to know. I believe that DH is the perfect fit for me. He knows me better than anyone else, I can tell him everything, I trust him, I love him and he does the same for me. What more could I ask for??
Post # 16
I wouldn’t. Even if someone was more “compatible” with me, he wasn’t here when I was looking for a relationship and I think my husband is pretty darn awesome.
There are probably LOTS of men in the world that I would be compatible with – but I don’t know them and I’ll probably never meet them. I think timing is part of it as well. I think most people have to reach that point where they’re ready to get married and then they find the person they enjoy being in a relationship the most. If they’re not ready for a commitment it doesn’t matter how well matched a couple is, the relationship will probably end.