Post # 1
I went out with some peolpe from work the other night to a trendy bar. One of the guys (a client) and I were talking and I mentioned how I hadn’t been to many bars in the city. He asked why and I said my DH and I are more homebodies but I was having a fun time.. he seemed surprised and said “If you were my wife, I would take you out all the time”.
Is it just me, or was the a bit inappropriate/weird to say to a married woman?
Post # 3
DEFINITELY way inappropriate!
Post # 4
Yup, not appropriate. But hey… looks like you’ve still got it lol. I’d take it as a compliment and make sure I’m always on guard around this guy. He’s probably just flirting, though.
Post # 5
@dannielle89: You know when Lady Astor told Winston Churchill, “Sir, if you were my husband, I would poison your drink” and he responded, “Madam, if you were my wife, I would drink it.”?
I would have responded something to that effect, “If you were my husband, I’d probably need to spend more time away from home.”
Post # 7
I would not have been all that offended.
Post # 8
I don’t know, it sounds like a compliment to me. Like, you’re attractice and he’d want to show you off.
Post # 9
Ya it’s a little inappropriate; nothing to get crazy about though. Just be happy that you got hit on LOL… You and DH should have a little laugh over it 🙂 I always think it’s pretty funny when FI tells me he got hit on LOL.
Post # 10
@canarydiamond: +1. I’m sure he’s already forgotten about it and was just being nice. I wouldn’t dwell on it. I don’t know what industry you’re in, OP, but men in my industry say stuff like that (and worse) to me all the time. It really doesn’t bother me and we all know how far taking it to HR will get you.
Post # 12
i wouldnt have been offended.i would have taken it as a compliment…long as it didnt go any farther
Post # 13
i think you’re thinking way too into it. seems harmless and like a compliment to me.
Post # 14
I think he was complimenting you….and maybe trying to see if that would ‘open’ the conversation to see if you are really happy being a homebody or not. Would have been easy for you to say ‘Yes my hubby’s the homebody I wish he would take me out!’. Good thing you didn’t say that
I go out a lot with my BF, and guys offer to buy drinks all the time. I always say the same thing-My BF is getting them tonight. They usually respond ‘Can’t blame a guy for trying’. Of course I’m not married–but it’s a compliment none the less. As long has your client dropped it at that, I think it was all in good (tipsy) fun!
Post # 15
Dude was hitting on you. Be careful around him; he’s looking for an opening.
Post # 16
@dannielle89: I think it was inappropriate. He was hitting on you and while that sometimes can be a compliment, he was doing it by putting your husband down. You said you were BOTH homebodies and this guy twists it into “my husband doesn’t ever take me out” which is not what you said or meant.
I hate when men try to pull that “I could treat you better” shit.
I once dated a guy (during a breif period that SO and I were broken up – it was very emotional and we were still very much in love) and this guy opened the car door for me. I said thanks and he said “I bet your old boyfriend never did that for you!”…I said yes actually he did, all the time, and he didn’t make a big deal of it.
Geez, if you’re going to make a nice gesture for a lady just do it without proclaiming how great you are afterwards.
Sorry, mini-rant lol